Is this odd?

[MamaBear17]

A few months ago my in laws said that they wanted to go on a big family holiday with all of their children and grandchildren. They offered hubby some money towards paying for it. We declined, for various reasons, but namely because money was tight, we were (still are) saving for a new kitchen, and we felt that, at 10 months, dd was too young for a beach holiday in the height of summer. In laws were fine with our decision and went ahead with the holiday with hubby's siblings. They then decided that because they had given hubby's siblings some money towards their holiday, they wanted to treat hubby so that it was 'fair'. MIL took hubby shopping and spent a small fortune on new clothes for him. A couple of weeks after that she took him out again and bought him three pairs of shoes. In between was his birthday and he was taken shopping again and MIL told me she had gone overboard on his birthday because she had paid for a day trip for the others whilst on holiday. Last night hubby went on his work's Christmas do and this morning tells me his mum gave him £50 'spending money' so his night was a bargain.

I am struggling to put in to words how I feel about this. I will be honest and admit that I was privately miffed that they hadn't offered us the money they spent on clothes for hubby towards our new kitchen, but I never mentioned this to hubby because it was nice for him to get treated and I knew I was BU. Its just my own parents tend to spoil our daughter and, on occasion, have pushed £20 our way and told us to go out for a drink and enjoy ourselves. Anything that they give us is given to us as a couple. I feel a little bit like the inlaws are trying to make sure their money goes only on their son. The money doesn't bother me, but I feel a bit like, despite the fact that we have been married for three years and have a child (whom they adore), I am still not part of the family. I know it sounds a bit daft but that really upsets me. I have been with hubby for 12 years and I still feel like an outsider, even though we all seem to get on really well. Am I unreasonable to be a bit upset? Part of me thinks I am so I could probably do with a virtual slap.

10 months too young for a beach holiday in summer? Eh? There are babies all over the world you know!

I realise that babies are born all over the world. My choice not to take my baby abroad was based on the fact that I knew she would not sit still on the four hour flight out, and that she would hate being sat by a pool or on a beach. It is a personal choice, but I felt that she was too young to go on a beach holiday. There is nothing more to this than what I have said. MIL was fine when we told her we were not going, she understood that money was tight - particularly as I had only just returned to work. My hubby is, and always has been, her PFB. She jokes about it all of the time. However, she is lovely to me and told me when we got married that she hoped I considered her my 'second mum'.

I think yabu. Maybe she feels that he missed out on not only the money but time with her and the family whilst away. By taking him shopping she is spending time with him as well as trying to make things fair financially.

I also think that if someone wants to give a gift you cannot then dictate what that gift should /should not be. If they want to spoil their son then they should be entitled to.

you are petulant, op. his mum wants to indulge him. let her. it takes nothing away from you.