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Aibu in getting my Dds to understand how fortunate they are in the is was

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pud1 · 15/12/2012 11:02

My Dds are 3 and 4 and they think that Santas elves make toys for all children and that it's all free and magical. All you have to do to receive these toys is be good. Aibu to burst this bubble and explain that adults have to pay for these toys and that some children are not as fortunate as them and make them clear out all there old toys to give some away.

I want them to understand that there are kids less fortunate then them but don't want to take the shine off the whole Santa thing.

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Cabrinha · 15/12/2012 13:13

My almost 4yo understands perfectly well that things costs money, that some things are a lot of money, some not, and that the money comes from mummy working hard. And that it has to pay for essential things too.

I sometimes work from home, and at 3.5 she wanted a magazine and when I said it was too expensive, she asked if I could go home and do some work. Slave driver!

We've talked about not everyone being lucky enough to have a job that pays well, or a job at all.

We talk about that on daily purchases, but I'm leaving Santa for now. Although she knows that some things are expensive, she can't guess what. So she could get a £100 kitchen (she won't!) and a friend a big set of crayons from Poundland, and she wouldn't know which was more expensive. Bad example - she might choose bigger item! But you know what I mean.

Right now, what she REALLY wants is a sponge. A plain bathroom sponge. No consumerism here! (possibly helps that's she's never seen a TV add in her life)

Plus, I think she's too young to compare. So we're enjoying Santa. Whilst always making donations and explaining why she puts coins in the donation bucket, etc.

Yeah - she's a fortunate child, parents with some money AND lots of love. But I think it's OK to just enjoy that, and leave the injustices of the world for another year.

On a related note - when she had a tantrum over not getting her Xmas sparkly shoes to wear early, she was stopped dead in her tracks when I told her at 4, I had one pair of shoes, my brother's old ones.

SantaWearsGreen · 15/12/2012 15:01

Bit young. They don't understand money/poverty at that age. You could just end up making them sad and confused. I would just say you are clearing them to make room for the new ones Santa is bringing?

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