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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think this 'freecycle' woman is blooody rude?

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TinselTwister · 14/12/2012 20:36

Not actual freecycle, but a local Facebook page. I recently listed some nice warm coats that are now much too big for me. The rule on this particular page is that first person to comment gets the item.

This lady asked all sorts of questions about one of these coats, about measurements, button sizes, condition etc and asked to collect this morning. I explained I would be working til 5, and she said she wanted
to go out in it tonight so would pick it up at 5.30.

You already know where this is going don't you? I had a message on fb at 5.30 saying she was stuck in traffic, one at 2 mins to 7 saying she was on her way but had to pick her little girl up, and one at 7.30 saying she'd just left.

Its Friday night ffs most people with a life would likely be going out what with it being the run up to Christmas. And I want a bath.

Would it be terribly rude to put the coat in a carrier bag and leave it on the doorstep?

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putonyourredshoes · 14/12/2012 20:37

Not rude at all, I frequently do that.

IwishyouaMerryChristmas · 14/12/2012 20:38

Not at all.

Cheeky woman!

Imaginethat · 14/12/2012 20:39

Just put them out and leave her to it. You have no obligation to be at her beck and call because you gave her coats. Nice of you to give the coats, I hope it doesn't put you off giving away other stuff

hermioneweasley · 14/12/2012 20:39

It's gone 8.30 and she's still not come? If you don't mind her having it leave it out, but I'd be tempted to stay inside and not answer and donate the coat to charity.

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TinselTwister · 14/12/2012 20:49

Tempting Hermione, but I've already said she can have it, so feel a bit mean if she really is on her way (which I am starting to doubt)

She's not the first to piss me about and then not show. Whats the point? Why do people do this? Grrr

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Hydrophilic · 14/12/2012 21:11

I would give it to someone else.

NatashaBee · 14/12/2012 21:16

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YuleBritannia · 14/12/2012 21:20

I offered something on Freecycle and agreed to take it to town and meet the recipient outside a particular shop at a particular time. Whoever it was didn't turn up so I had a wasted journey. I was a bit miffed but not cross because I had a list of things to buy in town anyway. Annoying, yes. Waited for half an hour in the cold and it was raining.

FannyBazaar · 14/12/2012 21:23

I almost always put stuff outside on the doorstep or behind the bin. I can't be doing with telling people when I will and won't be at home only for them to chop and change or have to wait for a reply. If they don't want to take the chances then they have to turn up at a time convenient for me.

cakebar · 14/12/2012 21:28

Yep, all our freecycle stuff goes out on the drive, wrapped in carrier bags if necessary. Don't know what the neighbours think!

whomovedmychocolate · 14/12/2012 21:30

Freecycle seems to be inhabited entirely by flakey unreliable people and I really get the feeling 90% of them that ask questions are doing so because they are attempting to value your items for resale.

Bobyan · 14/12/2012 21:33

Donate them to a charity shop, they make done money and someone who probably can't afford to buy new gets a decent coat.

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TinselTwister · 14/12/2012 21:36

WMMC - I am obviously incredibly naive or stupid because I hadn't even thought of that. :( It is still out there, on the doorstep. Clearly she decided it wasn't worth ebaying!

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elizaregina · 14/12/2012 21:36

whomoved

dont know where you are whomoved but i am a regular freecylcer and love it - have got AMAZING stuff off it and have given back - only very very few times over the years have i had bad experiences but really just what one would expect really....moslty its been great - please dont be put off it!

whomovedmychocolate · 14/12/2012 21:47

It depends where you are - our old group was fab before we moved and don't get me wrong, I've had good experiences, but they are vasted outweighed by the negative ones here (we live in a city though and the group is vast and fast moving and it seems entirely populated by nutjobs and dealers)

I actually had someone turn up a week late then threaten to thump me because I had given away 'his' digital radio to someone else (who did turn up and was grateful).

whomovedmychocolate · 14/12/2012 21:48

Take it to the Charity shop OP.

upstart68 · 14/12/2012 21:54

Yes I'd leave them on the doorstep with a sign saying "help yourself".

We advertised a double mattress -clearly saying it wasn't a luxury one but it would do if someone was just starting out. (I worked in a job where a few of my colleagues were in the local hostel and were being housed with absolutely nothing).

We have several people come round expecting a top of the range memory foam mattress and criticising it for not being so.

It was a basic sprung mattress with no stains - just a bog standard mattress. But the people who came round were looking to upgrade and didn't hide their displeasure about getting something for nothing.

There are some jokers out there.

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TinselTwister · 14/12/2012 23:04

I've just looked, it's still on the doorstep. I wasn't expecting her to fall to her knees in gratitude or anything, but why go to the bother of sending the messages saying you were on your way if you weren't

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SantasBigBaubles · 15/12/2012 03:58

take it back in and say on the fb thats its still availble due to timewasters. Name and shame her

bakedbeanqueen · 15/12/2012 09:03

I had a woman on freecycle once who was so rude to me. I had emailed her to enquire about a sofa. She had emailed back to say yes it was fine to have it. I said "thanks, when can I collect". I got no response for about a week. Finally, I got an extremely rude email saying she was fed up of people like me saying that they would have things but never coming to collect them!!

I don't know if I was supposed to knock on every door in my town asking if she was the woman with the sofa but she hadn't given me a date or time for collection. I am feeling cross now just typing this as he email was so rude and so uncalled for.

There are some crazy people out there.

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