To refuse to buy nephew an iTunes voucher because he'll buy something inappropriate?

[Virgil]

DSIS has asked me to buy my nine year old nephew a voucher for Christmas. This is fine and easy but he is allowed to play inappropriate games such as call of duty and grand theft auto, watches 18 movies and listens to music with explicit language. I know to an extent it is none of my business but I feel like I'm condoning it if I buy I'm a voucher so that he can buy more of the same.

AIBU to buy him books instead?

Of course not, buy him what you like! Just tell your DSis you're not keen on the vouchers so you're getting him books instead. If she wants to suggest any, that's great. Otherwise, just choose something!

No you're not but you'd be wasting your money imo.

I don't understand asking what they'd like if you plan on getting something else anyway.

YANBU, buy whatever else you think he'll like.

Well, it IS your business if she wants you to help facilitate his choices. YANBU.

Hmm, think I will go Ooo browsing. He probably won't read them but I can hope....

Book browsing not Ooo browsing!

Ive got my nephew the Mr Gum books. Recommended by my boss who's the dad of an eight year old boy.

If he had an apple device then by him a gift credit or subscription for audible. It's really easy to use and loads straight to iTunes to be downloaded. Even the most reluctant readers like snd audio book at bed time.

Buy him an age appropriate movie/music/game yourself if that's what he likes ad can't be trusted to choose himself with a voucher. No point buying him a present he doesn't want.

Buy him the new Guinness book or records or Ripley's believe it or not.

They're a tenner each and I don't know any 9yr old boys...or men come to think of it who wouldn't be happy to read them.

DH thinks we should just get the voucher on the basis that he's going to keep viewing stuff that's too old for him anyway and we will be wasting our money buying books.

I was thinking Percy Jackson.

IMO it depends on whether you asked your DSIS what he would like, in which case a bit odd to ask and not buy it. If, on the other hand, she just told you then what the hell, buy what you want to buy.

We did ask her what he wants but that was before the weekend when I discovered him showing seven year old DS1 grand theft auto!

Grand theft auto is disgusting.

Ds1 is 12 and get the guiness books every year. He has also enjoyed the Phillip Pullman books, the Skulduggery series and has got the hunger games trilogy for Christmas.

Or how about rhoald Dahl?

Or Ripleys believe it or not?

Tbh though, if he is allowed to play such filth I would bet reading is not encouraged

I'd buy it for him.

If its what he wants, and his mother thinks it appropriate - I'd respect her wishes.

I with the OP on this I think. I don't think I'd want to know I'd funded him in watching/playing/listening to age inappropriate things.

I agree with age appropriate games and movies but what is age appropriate music for a child?

My dd (8) likes jessie j & in her songs she swears. My dd misses out those words & looks shocked everytime she listens to the song.

But where would it end - if your nephew asked for vouchers for a clothing store would you want him to run past you what he might buy? What if he got a top with something on it you didn't like? Would you give him an Amazon voucher if you disagreed with their tax or lack of issues?

Its his present - if you want to buy him books, buy him books but you're doing it for you not him.

If its what he wants, and his mother thinks it appropriate - I'd respect her wishes.

Surely if something has an 18R it would be illegal to buy it for the child?