I can't stand spending time with my children, aibu?

[Fabuloo]

I think I likely am be horribly UR...

I have 3 DC, 2, 4 and 7... And a demanding puppy... DH is at home a fair bit, I work from home and I have been quite busy the last few months.

I cannot stand being around my children, I get bored, irritated, downright angry, then feel guilty as hell. As soon as they are in bed I vow to be a better mum tomorrow but all three of them at once just drive me mad, I can't cope with it

I've had enough by the evenings too, they get so tired/hyper and I can't wait for them to go to bed! Plus I'm so tired by that time too. I agree with the suggestion of nursery, is this a possibility? Surely the 4 and 7 year old are at school anyway?

Yanbu, motherhood is a bloody hard job. Throw working from home and a demanding puppy in the mix and it's even harder! My 2 dc are 8 & 9 now, on my days off work when I have dropped them off at school and return to an empty house it's absolute bliss. I'm not a mum, nurse or wife I can just please myself and I adore that time. Of course then I feel terribly guilty for feeling like that! We can't win. Life will be much much easier when they are at school full time as it will free your days do you can work in peace. Hang in there you are completely normal

How is the puppy demanding, exactly?

Sympathise/empathise btw

When my DCs were little I felt exactly the same as you. I lived for the day when they were in full time education. It gets so much easier when they are older but school hols are still a killer. I run my business from home. In the evenings I am counting down the minutes until bedtime so I can get some work done and make some money to pay bills. Lack of sleep is also a killer for you. Make time for yourself.

Glad to hear your feeling a bit better Fab. Don't worry, you will never be the only person to feel like this. I struggle, and i only have one DD and a rabbit

Hope you and your family have a lovely christmas.

YABU and YANBU at the same time! Have you tried to find a way to spend a little time with one child at a time? It's hard to organise but it's nice and really worth it. It helps with bonding etc . I find that I really like taking one child out, have a special time, go out for a piece of cake or something, it lets you see the child as opposed to the group and it's lovely. It's not easy....

total sympathies. It's really, really hard. It's totally ok to prefer working. Perfectly legitimate. There are times when it really is boring, irritating, relentless. Do not feel guilty about it - why on earth should anyone feel they must enjoy small children if they just don't?

I don't really have much in the way of practical advice but I do think you should ditch the guilt. That's a result of the myth of motherhood which is really unhelpful to all of us. Ditch the guilt and then focus on what you need to do to make this more bearable for you. Nursery? Help at home?

I can't wait for the teenage years