To be furious with ds dad

[Charliefarlie1192]

I was called in to school today regarding absences and I was a bit confused. Turns out that when ds stays at his dads on a sun and mon night he either doesn't go to school or goes in late. He is 7 and in year 2

On the plus the head said da had been flaged up as exceptionally bright and she didn't want this to affect his potential! She wen offered to pick him up on days when his dad may be struggling (she is so polite, I would have been tempted to say being a lazy fucking useless bastard)

Oh my word!!

Have you called him yet??

Whaaaaat?????? He can't do that! Have you bollocked asked him about it?

Don't know your back story Charlie but just from this, what a muppet your ex is, I presume there's no incapacity or disadvantage that limits his ability to get DS into school those mornings?

Is he going to take criticism well, are there other issues or is he usually a fairly responsible person?

Thank goodness Head knows you are competent and switched on, (how nice of her to offer to pick DS up!).

He lives a couple of bus rides away but I don't demand he has him during he week as I know it can be a ball ache getting ok lic transport. The thing is, I drive and would also happily pick ds up to make sure he is on time. I haven't called him as he rarely answers

Public not ok lic damn autocorrect

Better for him to have DS Friday or Saturday night I guess if it's a regular stumbling block. Your DS won't have mentioned it so as not to get Dad into trouble with you. Kids are so loyal!

i would suggest the teacher callls ds's dad into the school and has the same chat with him just so he is aware of the effect he is having on his son's education.

How have you just found out about this?

Surely you ask your DS how his school day was, or has his Dad taught him to lie to you?

Buy donkey - why should the op miss all weekend with her ds just as the father is not doing his job as a parent?

Op can you email or text that there is a serious problem that needs addressing?

You need to tell him to get his ds to school or you will stop contact on school days. I'm sure the courts would agree with you.

Sorry maddening I meant, maybe better if dad's night wasn't before a school day, ie a Fri or a Sat night instead.

I think he has missed some Mondays and he is late by 30-60 mins nearly every other time. Ds has probably been told to keep a secret and I can't tell him off as he is just a child beig told what to do by his dad

YANBU. I would stop overnight stays on school nights TBH.

I agree- could you ask the school to speak to the dad?

It would be much better coming from them.