To not send Christmas Cards

[Atthewelles]

My dad died this year and I'm not feelling in the humour for Christmas but obviously have to make an effort for other people's sakes and also to avoid being totally morose. One chore I have always hated is sending out Christmas cards. My mum is sending any this year because of Dad dying. AIBU to also think of not sending any as it is a stress I could do without and I would imagine if anyone notices they will guess the reason?

Mu mum isn't sending any, I meant

First of all, so sorry about your Dad.
If you're going to hate it, don't do it. Sending a card to friends should be a pleasure. If you are not going to enjoy it (for very valid reasons) - then don't. If anyone gets offended, that really is their problem, not yours.

I'm so sorry about your dad.
I think more and more people are opting out of cards anyway so it won't be a massive thing. I still send a few but I cut that down every year. Some people genuinely love sending and recieving cards, it doesn't sound like you are only of those people anyway (I'm not! Card pretty much go straight in the recycling here and I even have to make myself open them first!).
The only thing I would consider is how this will make you feel? I haven't completely stopped the cards, although would love to, as I know the guilt/angst I would feel about a few just wouldn't be worth it.
I've now lost two parents just after Christmas (both dying over a Christmas) and I think it has definitely affected my tolerance for continuingly doing things I don't enjoy around this time.

Thank you for the replies.

I think I may hand out cards to a few people that I will be meeting up with or calling to over the Christmas season. But I will not post any out or stress myself trying to find addresses, remember who to send them to etc.

I think you are right zlist. With so many means of keeping in touch nowadays less and less people are sending cards. I know my parents' generations used to send out dozens and dozens and my mother usually runs out of places to put them. I think that tradition is dying out a little.

YANBU. I can understand your reasons why but for me its also practical and money related. I've stopped sending cards. Its an expensive stress inducing activity. I buy cheap ones in January for the kids to give out at school and thats it. When me and dh sent out cards during our first christmas together it cost over £70! Now I message friends and encourage them not to send us any either. I'd rather spend the cash on something else and rather they would too.

YANBU i don't send christmas cards either.

Very sorry about your dad. YANBU. I gave up sending cards a few years ago - I hate Xmas and am a right old grinch about it anyway. If someone gives me a card, I thank them in person or send a nice FB message to explain that I don't send cards so don't think I've forgotten them.

I don't bother anyway. They get opened and recycled in less than 30 seconds here. my neighbour sends them to all and sundry and has just spent nearly £100 on stamps alone! What a waste!
Don't do them if you can't bring yourself too. I dont mean this horribly but most people wouldn't notice anyway. That does sound like I'm being harsh, but that phrase doesn't come across well typed!!

Sorry to hear about your dad.

I'm not sending this year either except to a select few.

I really wouldn't worry about it.