It concerns my BIL who I've posted about on here in the past week: DH and I are spending Xmas and NY in DH's home country with his family. DH has gone out early. DH's half brother (who is on his third wife at just 37, posted about the difficulties of this if anyone remembers) has been in touch with a list of presents which he wants me to buy for his DCs. They are mainly One Direction-related things for his DD who is obsessed and some other stuff for his infant son. Now admittedly he can't get most of them there and admittedly he says he's going to reimburse me but he's given me a laundry list of about seven items, very specific, each of which costs well over £20 so comfortably over £100. I'm not going to spend that much on my DD, my DH and my parents combined and I also don't really want that much cash outlay on someone else's kids when I'm skint, need the money for my own Xmas shopping and I'm not going to get it back until Boxing Day at the earliest. DH knows he's being unreasonable and has promised to talk about it (and this bloke has form doing this, is always borrowing money off his mum etc). I know I'm well within my rights to tell him I'm not spending that kind of money on his kids but I need to handle it carefully because a) I don't want a diplomatic incident with his family over Xmas and b) because its a poorer country than here they have this perception that English people are swimming in money I want to avoid the perception of ungenerousness. Should I ask him to wire me the money? Or should I just tell him I'm not prepared to spend that much money when it exceeds the money I'm spending on my own family? (also for context his English isn't great so this would have to be done through DH, putting DH potentially in a difficult situation.)