FB Post by my nephew

[NanaNina]

My nephew is 50 and single but has lots of girl friends. A lot of his FB posts are about sex and he has been obsessed with the Jimmy Saville business to a point that made me start feel uncomfortable. Lately his posts have been about anal sex.

Today he has posted a big pic of Santa and the words "You better not pout and you better not cry......." cus I am coming in dry." OMG it's worse when I type it. To me it is suggestive of child abuse as the words are from a children's christmas song "Santa Claus is coming to Town" and of course Santa is for kids. It made me feel sick.

I don't think for one moment he is a paedophile or has any leanings that way - but I think he's crossed a line with this one and I've PMed him told him what I think. I've also warned him he needs to be careful what he is putting in the public domain as the paedophilia thing is (as it should be) a hot potatoe at the moment. I know he downloads these pictures from a website and I've just been on the website, that says "We will go further than anything you can think of - if you're embarrassed stay away." My actions could cause a rift between myself and my nephew and I am fond of him, but wonder what reaction others have?

the joy of facebook - the 'unfriend' button. Just do it. Doesn't sound like a guy you want to know in real life either.

Tell him what you think and if it happens again defriend him and tell his mother

Hard to believe this is a 50 year old man being discussed

Ooh, that didn't come across right. I meant in the sense that he's acting like a 15 year old.

ewww he sounds like a bit of a tube. Block him and tell him why

YANBU. I'd cut contact, and tell him why.

But seriously, how on earth does a 50 year old sex pest have lots of girlfriends?! Most men that age I know who are single struggle to get one!

Thanks for all your replies. Someone asked about his parents - his mum, my sister died in 2006 and she and her H were divorced years ago. My nephew's dad was always teling dirty jokes I remember so maybe it's in the genes! I have just PMed my great niece to see what she thinks. She saw the post and said "it's wierd - I don't bother with his stuff but let me know what he says back to you."

I've "argued" with him on FB before about racist stuff (his dad was racist too) and sexist stuff. Tbh I hate the fact that a close relative is like this and before I went on FB I had no idea - he was just an ordinary nice bloke, who was horrendously upset when his mom died. He has always lived with his sister and her husband and they keep a pub and he is a nice bloke, so maybe as you all say I just hide his stuff. Don't want to "unfriend" him as strangly my sister's death bought the family closer together and I don't want to lose that.

At least most of you don't think it is sugestive of child abuse, so maybe I was wrong there, but thanks anyway. The consensus seems to be that he is acting like a 15 yr old rather than a 50 yr old!. His brother (who is very high up in the Fire Service) and quite "proper" would be disgusted I think and especially that his 16 year old daughter was seeing stuff like this posted by her uncle.

LessmissAbbs - I know what you mean. I've never seen him with a girl (though I don't see him very often) but my other nieces have told me that he always has a different girl "on the go" - he isn't good looking or anything, so not sure really.

I've deleted my uncle because of comments like this, along with racist, homophobic and sexist ones. Its hard because you're standing up to family, and that is always bound to cause issues, but firstly his comments upset me, and secondly I didn't want people to see me as associated with them.

I'd unfriend him and explain why, make it clear that you don't like posts like that appearing on your page and that it's not a personal thing. I didnt see it as a reference to child abuse either, but I don't find it particulary funny.

Nana

I'll not comment on the content but he should remember that Facebook is not private. Might this impinge on his employment (if any) ?

It is not in the genes, he has learnt that this type of thing is "funny" and "clever" from his dad's example.

There is no joke in what he posted, its just gross out shocking rubbish I would expect two teenagers to snigger at. Not suggest of child abuse specifically but rape, yes. I would be worried about why a 50 yr old would share it with everyone on their friend list tbh.

Oh sorry I thought it was a teen when I said about telling the parents!

TBH he sounds a bit mentally challenged if he's finding these sorts of jokes funny at 50. I would defriend him immediately and explain why and challenge any of this behaviour if it's in front of you. There is nothing else you can do really.