Two mummies and two daddies...

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Just heard this read aloud from the back of a CBeebies birthday card - Happy Birthday from your two mummies and two daddies...

How does that even work?

Shocking, it's all the BBC's fault of course, using our money to create these un-natural birthday greetings. Make them get adverts that's what I say.

I don't find it odd, it's kinda cute.

Pumpkin, but parents don't give individual cards 'from Mummy' and 'from Daddy'.

Not sure i understand your point or its relevance to me but actually, I did on occasion get individual cards from mummy and daddy (maybe it was a sign!)

It's not that unusual, ffs. Sounds like two gay dads and two lesbian mums. Nice.

Surely then you'd be giving two separate cards stating "from your two daddies/from your two mummies"?

I'd want the two cards, but maybe I'm just horribly materialistic.

CBeebies wouldn't have read out two cards to the same child. Very clever and resourceful of the parents to get all the love on one card.

Why is it odd? Gay parents, who come together as a family to celebrate their child's birthday. Sounds perfectly nice.

No, if they all live near each other and function as an overall unit they'd give out the same card. What do the lesbian/gay families you know do?

Odd? For the 18th century perhaps but nowadays probably common place. DD has 4 GMs and 3 GFs.

I wouldn't say it is odd nowadays but, if it's the parents and step parents scenario, then I don't know why people are calling a child who has been through family break up lucky?! Yes, it happens to loads of kids and most are fine with it but it's hardly a positive experience.

Sorry if I misread you Pumpkin! I just meant that if people see themselves as a single parenting unit they may give just a single card (or maybe they all decided they wanted to get in on the act of the Cbeebies card, more likely...)

Well, quite. No doubt they sent separate cards to the child directly, but teamed up to do the one on the telly. Seems quite reasonable tbh.

So gay couples and lesbian couples actually have one child together as a four parent unit?? How does that work?

So gay couples and lesbian couples actually have one child together as a four parent unit?? How does that work?

it just does?

The same as if a childs parents had separated and the parents had new partners.

"So gay couples and lesbian couples actually have one child together as a four parent unit?? How does that work?"

How does any family work? (Or not work?)

It's a cbeebies card! The four parents obviously wanted to arrange the surprise for their child together. I don't understand what is strange about that in the slightest!

Like any other family works, in their own way. Seriously why is this pass-remarkable at all?

My first thought wouldn't be gay couples. It would be divorced parents who have each re-married, and are getting on famously.

Although the former wouldn't be a problem.

"The same as if a childs parents had separated and the parents had new partners."

It's not the same at all.

One involves the (possibly traumatic) breakdown of a family unit and the later gradual incorporation of step-parents.

The other involves two mothers and two fathers from the start. There's no step parenting.

There was a column in the Guardian for a while written by a gay man who was parenting his 2 DCs, together with the child's mother, and his partner. If the mum were to have a partner, they'd probably all parent together.

It's not rocket science. I'm not sure why you are so confused.

Well this is the situation of two gay families I know in my circle:
Female 1 has biological child of Male 1. Female 1 and Female 2 are partners and raise the DC together but share some parenting duties/responsibilities with Male 1 and his partner Male 2.

Two mummies and two daddies.

SleighbellsRingInYourLife
Your taking what I said out of context.

I am saying that it works the same as any other parenting groups where the mother and father are not together. As in they all parent the child and work together.

The OP asked how it works. Having 4 parents (regardless of sexual orientation) happens and works all the time.

Who cares? Really?

Surely the only person this matters to is the kid who gets to see a card from their loving family unit on tv??

Moving on....

Probably done just the one card for the telly.