I say 'Grandparents' because they have never acted like grandparents. Never remembered her birthday or Christmas. Not even a card/phonecall/visit.
DD's Dad died last year and since then the Grandparents have made a half hearted attempt at being in touch with her and wanted to see her.
She is 11 and finds it all a bit confusing. She made a card for the Mum but then didn't know what to put on the envelope as she didn't want to say Gran or Nan... so she didn't bother giving it.
I know it's not all about presents etc but they just have obviously never thought about her.
It makes me mad. And sad. Because I do miss DD's Dad even though we had not been together for about 8 years before he died. We were still friends and he was a nice guy really, if feckless.
I had thought that it would be good for her to maintain some sort of contact with them, to help her remember her Dad but their rubbishness puts me off.
We went to see them last weekend and the Mum once again called my little boy by the wrong name (about the 10th time) not even a name that sounds anything like his name.
She had not bought DD aChristmas card or present and I knowe they are not planning to be in our area again now until after Christmas.
I'm considering just writing her a letter, saying it's too late and just leave DD alone now. Perhaps I'm over reacting.