to ask you all whether i should ditch this "friend" ?

[MoomieAndFreddie]

she makes me feel shit about myself. since I have known her she has made comments about why don't I get a job (when I was a SAHM) when I started working part time she was all like why don't I work more hours? basically making me feel like some lazy layabout. another of our friends is a single mum on benefits and she was constantly making digs to and about her, along the same lines. This friend does not have DC. She is also obsessed with buying a house, her and her DH have been saving for a year for a deposit and are now in the position to buy so she is boasting telling everyone who will listen about this, and constantly saying to me, oh why dont YOU buy, Moomie, despite knowing FULL WELL we are not able to. And we are in housing association so frankly we are happy where we are. (she judges us for this as well)

she also recently insulted some of my other friends (with DC) by saying she didn't want to breastfeed if she had DCs as its "disgusting" and she was worried she would get a bucket fanny if she gave birth . She is also very bossy and likes to "organise" people for boring girls nights out. Also, if she ever meets any of my other friends, she tries to "poach" them by adding them on FB and then trying to invite them along to above shit nights out. And to top it off she is very mean and is the type when you go out for dinner she will calculate her share to the Very Last Penny. And NEVER leaves a tip.

Anyway last night was the last straw. she phoned for a chat and kept going on and on about going to view houses to buy. And she just had to get in a little dig about where I live. she said, Its such a shaaaaame....house prices are really cheap in but i Wouldn't Live There. She might as well have just come out and said - your area sucks. Even if she thinks it, IMO its rude and unacceptable to say it out loud. And it has made me realise I just don;t want her in my life anymore.

How can I ditch her?

I had one of these.

Seemingly supportive etc etc, but would occasionally come out with utter shite that would have you reeling.

Apparently, I look like Albert Steptoe and have a horrendous northern nasal voice.......

It was alright for her to CONSTANTLY go on about the voice, though, because she was more northern than me, because her folks came from Cumbria......

She too absolutely hated me to have any good news or to move on in life, especially relationship-wise. I wouldn't see a flash of glee - it'd be a flash of black twisted fury.....

Sacked her right off, she went all weird on me. I don't care now.

I don't look like Albert Steptoe, though...in case any of you were wondering.

....tries to say "HarOOOOOLLLD in a nasal northern voice.....

Doesn't work.

Try & Ignore her.

Ive told family a few home truths today, for the first time.
Not because Im horrible, but because Im 39 and Ive had enough.
The phone just rang, I didn't answer it, because I don't care who it was.

Seriously ditch the bitch, start putting yourself first.

good for you vintageviolets

thats kind of how i have been thinking, life really is too short to spend it with people who don't make you feel happy

i have a feeling she will be really hard to shake off though.....she is VERY thick skinned

In the gym 2 Weeks after a c-section with a newborn?

Hahahahahahahahahaha!

Why are you friends with this person in the first place? If she makes you feel bad then just walk away and have nothing more to do with her.

The thing is, these types are hard to shake off, as they are so unbelievably thick-skinned.
My one was awful....it was a case of "I've bought such-and-such for the kids, WHEN shall I come round?"

I managed to reduce contact drastically towards the end, but I found if I didn't pick up the phone, she'd call DP's phone and then the landline within a minute or so.

Eventually I realised I was going to have to tell her directly.

yes got the same thing with mine as well. she has bought my DC christmas presents :( feel bad about that. she dropped it into the conversation during the phone convo i refer to in my OP. and i do feel mean about that. although to be fair, we never said we were buying for eachother, or my DCs. and tbh no idea why she has bought for them as she has NO interest in them at all

am having some friends round sat night and am hoping she doesnt find out about it...

Oh a scorpion friend . One of those whose tinkly little comments always seem to have a sting in the tail . I'd bin her like a shot. She certainly isn't a friend .

stop answering the phone. block her. she'll get the message eventually.

oh god she keeps commenting on every status i write on FB

its like she KNOWS

if i delete or block her she will ring me....aaargh

You've been given the advice you've asked for. Take it.

The longer you drag this out the worse it's going to get.

You know to get rid, you know she's not doing you any favours, you know it's not a friendship and yet you carry on with it, why?

Why don't you just carry on as normal but, whenever she makes a rude comment, ask her if she meant that to sound so rude. She'll either realise how offensive she sounds and change or be so put out she'll avoid you in future.

I suspect that underneath it all shes probably insecure. But dump her anyway, shes not a friend.

Just tell her. Do it in her FB inbox if you're really scared.