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To find myself suddenly struggling to welcome gay marriage?

187 replies

grovel · 11/12/2012 13:44

My initial reaction was "fine". As I think about it, I become rather sad that we are losing a distinctive quality in the meaning of marriage - namely that it celebrates how men and women complement each other (not only for purposes of procreation).

In every way I want equal recognition of partnerships be they straight or gay. Why then am I sad about changing the meaning of a word?

OP posts:
MrsTerrysChocolateOrange · 11/12/2012 15:28

It just is true that anyone who comments on grammar or spelling will immediately spell something wrong. It is a MN rule.

HullyEastergully · 11/12/2012 15:29

You do realise that no one is going to read the bit where you go, Oh soz, I was an arse and just keep calling you a right cunt for 1000 posts don't you?

Crinkle77 · 11/12/2012 15:29

I can't understand why so many people are against same sex marriage and why it will undermine the sanctity of marriage. There are lots of heterosexual married people who undermine the institution of marriage everyday through their behaviour (affairs, physical/mental abuse against their partner for example) so that argument is flawed to me.

HullyEastergully · 11/12/2012 15:29

It is hardly my fault if you don't know the word "snesible" is it?

valiumredhead · 11/12/2012 15:29

Eh? I am very Confused OP you are calling your own post crap?

You must have a heart of stone not to be moved by this pics

grovel · 11/12/2012 15:30

I do, Hully.

I'll open some wine and have a quiet weep.

OP posts:
grovel · 11/12/2012 15:31

Valium, I said on page 2 that I regretted the OP.

OP posts:
Davsmum · 11/12/2012 15:33

Being sad about it does not mean you are homophobic.

I am not bothered whether gay people get married or not - any more than I am bothered whether heterosexual people get married - TBH I often wonder why people feel the need to be married at all.

valiumredhead · 11/12/2012 15:33

Oh well that will teach you - I rarely read the whole thread Wink

OwlLady · 11/12/2012 15:34

op, you are a cnut

HullyEastergully · 11/12/2012 15:35

A Right Cnut

BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers · 11/12/2012 15:35

Were you talking to me then, HULLY?

If so, tell it to my iPod spellchecker you fucking bungle.

OwlLady · 11/12/2012 15:36

and a snesible cnut on the left

GreenPetals · 11/12/2012 15:36

But that's also the reason why there is never a need to come down on an OP like if she was the most awful, stupid person in the world and first take time to explain.

The problem as hully said is that no one is going to notice your post in the middle of all nearly 100 posts now.

HullyEastergully · 11/12/2012 15:37

Not just you Bunting and Cnutcakes

BaublesAndCuntingCarolSingers · 11/12/2012 15:38

I'mma still gonna kick you in the minge.

lostconfusedwhatnext · 11/12/2012 15:38

Ok this might the wrong thread for this now but I would honestly-and-for-true like someone who believes it to tell me how the institution of marriage can be "damaged" or something by being extended to people they don't think should have it.

If you are a Christian and for you marriage is a sacrament, how does the power go out of it by it being extended to other people whom you would not marry? It isn't like a knighthood or something where it is all about honour and reputation - if they gave 90% of the population knighthoods suddenly I can see how it might take the shine off one you got a few years back. But marriage is not like that, it is more like.... an MOT. suppose your car passed its MOT on the old rules, and you are feeling safe and secure in your car, and then they passed a new rule that said they won't check the lights, cars without lights can pass MOTs (I am not suggesting btw that gay marriage is analogous to cars without lights just trying to think my way into this) - your MOT is no worse, because it is a factual thing that happened to your car, and it is as good as it ever was. the reputation of the MOT might be lowered in your eyes but Christian marriage is not about reputation it is about a sacrament that has happened or not....

Does anyone understand? can anyone help me?

grovel · 11/12/2012 15:38

Cnut thought he could reverse the tide.

Not on here I can't.

OP posts:
HullyEastergully · 11/12/2012 15:39
OwlLady · 11/12/2012 15:39

I thought that was Moses, unless you are suggesting Moses is cnut

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange · 11/12/2012 15:39

It's a good chance to update the 'who doesn't read the thread' spreadsheet. Luckily I am a snesible cnut who does.

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange · 11/12/2012 15:40

The Great Cnut

HullyEastergully · 11/12/2012 15:40

Christians believe that the sacrament of marriage (a therefore holy thing) can only be made between a man and a woman.

hth

HullyEastergully · 11/12/2012 15:41

Snesible Cnuts will inherit the earth

PostBellumBugsy · 11/12/2012 15:41

I also subscribe to the view that it is really silly to be referring to it as "gay marriage" and I'm not having a go at snesible grovel but at the media generally. It is inclusive marriage - marriage for all couples, regardless of how they are made up.
I'm so glad it is happening. It is like another nail in the coffin for all those awful restrictive views that marriage is primarily designed for procreation. Love & commitment are good things to recognise world over - so hurrah for inclusive marriage! Xmas Grin

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