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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be a bit freaked out that ds's new teacher is our nextdoor neighbour

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LargeLatte · 10/12/2012 17:34

And she will be his teacher for nearly 2 years.

Every time the kids mess about outside the house, or are noisy playing in the garden, or we get a takeaway, or we go away for the weekend, or anything at all his teacher will know about it.

Please tell me this will be OK.

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VivaLeBeaver · 10/12/2012 17:35

I bet they'll be more worried than you. If they have parties, get drunk, etc then they'll be worrying that you'll tell half the playground.

Lesbeadiva · 10/12/2012 17:36

You are over thinking it. Stop worrying. Sewell probably eat takeaways too you know Xmas Wink

Lesbeadiva · 10/12/2012 17:36

She will!

orangepudding · 10/12/2012 17:36

Of course it will be okay. The teacher is going to want to desperate her work and private life - I imagine it will be worse for her!

orangepudding · 10/12/2012 17:37

Seperate not desperate!

AlistairSim · 10/12/2012 17:37

Heh heh heh!

We have one of the teachers living next door too.
She's very nice and swears that she's never even heard the children or me shouting at them.

TrillsCarolsOutOfTune · 10/12/2012 17:39

Teachers have to live somewhere.

YAB unreasonably paranoid.

cathpip · 10/12/2012 17:39

I used to live next door to my home ec teacher who was also my head of year, no problem at all. Mind you i used to live with my geography teacher but she was my mum :)

PicaK · 10/12/2012 17:40

Definitely worse for the teacher i would have thought!

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LargeLatte · 10/12/2012 17:41

orangepudding - that's what I keep telling myself - and I absolutely would not gossip about her because I wouldn't mess about with someone's private life. I know I need to trust her to be professional and not judge ds or me.

What is freaking me out is that we have known each other for a while, including a time that due to depression, illness and bereavement a few years ago, I was not an especially good mum. None of the teachers at the school know that. But she does. I wanted to leave it behind me.

I'm glad I've got a few weeks to get over the idea because I really freaked out when I found out a few hours ago.

Lesbe - I swear she doesn't ever eat anything bad ever, and she does lots of exercise / sporty stuff intimidated

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LargeLatte · 10/12/2012 17:42

oooh didn't mean to bold that oops

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AngelsWithSilverWings · 10/12/2012 17:43

Spare a thought for my DCs!

We have a teacher at their primary school living next door ( attached to us!)

Next door ( the other side) lives another one of the teachers and my DS's current teacher lives opposite us!

GwendolineMaryLacedwithBrandy · 10/12/2012 17:44

oh dear, no phoning in sick and sneaking off to Florida mid-term!

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LargeLatte · 10/12/2012 17:45

AlaistairSim I have already heard from others that this person complains about my children and how I look after them - which was fine when she wasn't the teacher, but I feel a bit Xmas Hmm about her feeling that way about us, and then being ds's teacher.

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LargeLatte · 10/12/2012 17:46

Angels - oh my!

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ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 10/12/2012 17:46

I am wondering which of you will be building the 8ft high fence first. I am sure that they don't want to know about your life anymore than you want to know about theirs.

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LargeLatte · 10/12/2012 17:48

Chazs - but they already do know all about us - we have lived nextdoor to each other for 6 years, but they've only just moved to ds's school.

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ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 10/12/2012 17:50

Ah I had assumed they had moved near you but I see now that they have moved to the school. On a serious note. Is your DS's school one form only or could he go into a different class, if its going to worry you that much?

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LargeLatte · 10/12/2012 18:12

He could go into another class. There are 2 others depending on if they have any space in those classes. He has only just got used to the class he is in and has made some friends so I would be reluctant to move him.

When I first found out I was so stressed I'd've happily changed schools but I'm sure we'll all get used to it - it just might be a bit uncomfortable to start with.

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silvercup · 10/12/2012 18:17

Ugh, I'd hate that! I feel for you.

TheNebulousBoojum · 10/12/2012 18:20

Bet she's not thrilled either, I hated it when I lived in the catchment area of my school, and that was years ago when I was young and lively.
Pushing your trolley around a supermarket with all the gogglers checking stuff out, being in my PJs and opening the door for the postie, all not fun.

EuphemiaInExcelsis · 10/12/2012 18:20

Way worse for teachers - you can't hang your kidney warmers out wearing a stained dressing gown. Xmas Smile

valiumredhead · 10/12/2012 18:21

I'd move!

manicinsomniac · 10/12/2012 18:24

Goodness, your fears are very unfounded I hope - we are normal people you know!
There are two families from my school in my road, one two doors down and one opposite. Plus several other children from the school in the same small village. I have children at the school too so these other children are in and out of my house frequently and I'm often in their houses, either collecting children or chatting to the parents who are my friends too. The children do not call me Miss X out of school, they call me by my first name.I can read a child a story before bed or make them beans on toast for tea at the weekend and still be mean old dragon teacher lady during the week.

You and your son will be fine!

DoingItOnTheRoofTopWithSanta · 10/12/2012 18:31

I understand why you are stressing OP. Mabe go an have an actual chat with the teacher, explain why you are nervous and be really honest about your past and see what she has to say,