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AIBU?

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To not send ds into school.

23 replies

lollilou · 10/12/2012 13:53

My ds'(nearly 10) school are going on a schooltrip to a panto on his birthday leaving at 9ish and getting back around 7 in the evening. We are going to have a takeaway,open presents and eat cake that evening.
Now the next day is his last day of school and the children can go in later at 10.30 with a church service in the afternoon.
I'm thinking about not sending him in as he will have had a late night due to his birthday. He doesn't cope well when tired.
They don't do much on the last day anyway, so shall I or will he be missing out?

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UC · 10/12/2012 13:55

Send him in, he'll live! Surely he wouldn't sleep til 10.30 anyway, and the school can cope if he's tired!

ScarfHatSunglasses · 10/12/2012 13:56

Send him. I can't even imagine why you wouldn't He's 9 years old not 9 months. He'll cope with a bit less sleep for one night and he doesn't even need to be there until 10.30!

chocoluvva · 10/12/2012 13:59

I'd send him in. He'll be marked absent if you don't and the school should by law follow it up unless you tell them beforehand.
He'll feel like he's ended the term properly if he goes in on the last day and benefit from the service even if you're not christians or religious.
Lots of the other children will be tired too after all the parties, concerts etc they've been to and just from the christmastime hype.

ClippedPhoenix · 10/12/2012 14:01

Send him in, it's his last day before Christmas.

somuchslimmernow · 10/12/2012 14:15

My son is same age and also does not cope well when tired...but as he does not need to go in until a bit later I am sure he will be fine just this once. Its usually after a few late nights there are problems.

NagooHoHoHo · 10/12/2012 14:17

Send him in. He'll want to see his friends, play games and stuff :)

WorraLorraTurkey · 10/12/2012 14:19

Send him

He'll survive to tell the tale!

BigShinyBaubles · 10/12/2012 14:20

I would send him to school, so he can enjoy his last day with his friends.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 10/12/2012 14:20

Send him in.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 10/12/2012 14:23

Send him in...it will be a fun day, shame for him to miss out :)

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lollilou · 10/12/2012 15:15

Thanks everyone, I will send him in. I suppose I was just feeling a bit sad because I'll only see him for a few hours on his birthday even though I paid for him to go to the panto

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Floggingmolly · 10/12/2012 15:28

They're allowed to go in at 10.30, and you think he'll be too tired?
Unless he's actually pulling an all nighter (he's not, is he?) there is no reason he couldn't manage that.

natation · 10/12/2012 15:33

What no school because it's your birthday and it's equally a school trip?

Our poor daughter will for the 2nd year running be on Scouts camp the week of her birthday, in the same week 2 other children will have their birthdays. Wouldn't dream of not letting her go because it's her birthday and I think she should be at home. Sorry naff analogy I know, but our daughter survived the day without us last year, your son will survive the longer day at school with a celebration at home afterwards. If necessary, have a family birthday celebration the day before or after.

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lollilou · 10/12/2012 16:14

Natation I don't think he should stay at home because it's his birthday or a school trip.
I was just considering it the day after because they don't have a proper school day.
Tbh the 10.30 the next day makes no difference as no matter what time he goes to bed he will wake up very early.

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NannyEggn0gg · 10/12/2012 18:06

He really ought to take part in the service anyway, so YWBU to keep him at home. He's got plenty of time over Christmas to rest!

maddening · 10/12/2012 18:58

The last day is always fun and nice - glad you sent him :)

CaliforniaSucksSnowballs · 10/12/2012 20:42

Send him in, the last day is always fun.

LIZS · 10/12/2012 20:46

Dear me , he (and perhaps you) need to develop some stamina. He can go in late and crash afterwards but will probably be fine

OutragedAtThePriceOfFreddos · 10/12/2012 21:00

He's 10. Send him to school.

HollyBerryBush · 10/12/2012 21:04

I'm going the other way - you have birthday celebrations on a non school day.

I do get mardy with taxes n#being used to provide a serive (ie) education, when parents cannot be arsed to bother.

I dont take tays of work to cut acake, neither do I facilitate my children to do the same.

I'm sure I'll be shouted down, because a birthday is just so special that it cannot be missed. [eye roll icon]

Picturesinthefirelight · 10/12/2012 21:06

I sent my 10 year old in last year despite the fact she was performing in panto til 10pm every other night!

CoolaYuleA · 10/12/2012 21:55

If he's going to be awake early anyway I'm not sure what your reason is for thinking about keeping him at home. He can be tired at either place and it's a bit "Awww PFB" to keep him home because he had a late night.

The last day of the winter term is one of the best days of the year - it wouldn't be fair to keep him home and it's not like one late night will do him any harm, and as you said, he'll be up anyway.

misterwife · 11/12/2012 01:21

Send him in - he'll have had a late night, but he gets a compensatory lie-in.

Also, find me someone who copes well when tired. We all have to do stuff when we're tired. It's called life.

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