Ok so, split with my partner and father of 2dcs last march, hated being away from him even though we had problems, after 6-7 months apart we tried again and things have been so much better. One issue that will not change is his mums and my relationship. Tried so hard to put up with her and was nice even when I didn't want to be. She made it clear to me many times she doesnt like me very much or thinks I'm not good enough for her son. For example, I discussed my worries about his drinking with her and she basically bought him beers when we were struggling badly, both with money and the drinking. I asked her for help as I needed the support.
Anyway she basically disagreed there was a problem and carried on helping him to drink (maybe 8 cans of lager a night.)
So with that and other things that have gone on for 13 yrs I decided the only way for me to stay sane was not to see her at all. She makes me so stressed to the point of illness. I drop my DC's off whenever she wants to see them and never stand in the way of her seeing them or vice versa. It's my issue and i have to deal with it.
Ive just asked dp if he fancies having a few friends round to our house between Christmas and new yr as its my bday. And he said we can't as his mum won't have the kids over night if its for me. She did have them overnight regularly before.
It's a bit of a bummer but not so bad as my parents will have them now and again. They work a lot and have a social life (I don't expect our parents to babysit I know they're our kids)
Dp told her he's tried to talk to me about it but we don't get anywhere. Because In my opinion he's on the defensive when it comes up and always ends in a row.
but AIBU to think this is so petty. Just because she doesn't see me anymore. (She obv doesn't like me anyway btw.) she won't baby sit for us to spend time together if its my idea???
Thanks if you bothered to read that btw 