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Not to want anti rape adverts

43 replies

Startail · 09/12/2012 19:06

On a normally entirely suitable for small DCs free PC games site.

The DDs have messed about on zylom.com for as long as we have had a PC ie about 10 years.

DD2 (11) has a cold so she's playing sitting on my knee being huggy, when the pre game ad comes on.

It's shows a young couple kissing and then him clearly having sex with her and her telling him to stop. You then see him looking in on himself realising what he's doing and the home office logo comes up.

DD knows the facts of life and was just a bit shocked as she said that's ok for me now, (she spends her life geting SIMs PG), but not when I was 6!

OP posts:
trapclap · 22/12/2012 09:45

stunt I also feel anger at this thread. Can't quite articulate why yet. Bit to start with....the title

I don't want rape. It's a fucking travesty that there is a need to even make anti rape ads

JamieandtheMagiTorch · 22/12/2012 10:00

I have to agree that i find your objection to this advert ironic

JamieandtheMagiTorch · 22/12/2012 10:01

That was to the op

JamieandtheMagiTorch · 22/12/2012 10:03

I also find your stereotyping a bit dodgy. Not all boys are onterested in COD

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers · 22/12/2012 10:05

YABVU.

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 22/12/2012 10:07

at 11 i would imagine her to have a pretty good understanding of what sex is and how it happens. i'd also expect you to have discussed rape and what that is and why it shoudln't happen and any sorts of feelings she had about it. if not then this ad would have been a good opener to have that talk.

perplexedpirate · 22/12/2012 10:08

The advert is excellent. If its causing you to discuss these thing with your DD then it's doing it's job.
DS is not quite 5. I don't think he's seen it, as he's generally in bed before the watershed anyway. But if he did, and it caused him to ask questions then I'm happy to (age appropriately) answer them.
And if you think 11 year old wouldn't google sex on an unattended laptop, you are living in cloud cuckoo land!

BIWIshYouAMerryChristmas · 22/12/2012 10:14

I think you need to seriously re-think your world view, OP. Boys and girls are no different in regard to what they might be interested in watching/searching for. Your posts are based on hideously sexist views, and you are, I think, naive to the extreme.

The whole point of the ad you are talking about is to change societal views about what is and isn't acceptable in terms of relationships, domestic violence, sexual pressure and rape. Good that it might make people uncomfortable. Job done.

SantaIAmSoFuckingRock · 22/12/2012 10:16

agree totally with all of trapclap's posts.

LilyVonSchtupp · 22/12/2012 10:32

I agree with all of stuntgirl's post. YABVU.

AllOverIt · 22/12/2012 13:31

I hate them, as a rape survivor, they are vile. They catch me unawares while I'm relaxing and take my breath away.

But they are necessary. Hmm

LadyBeagleBaublesandBells · 22/12/2012 14:00

I think it's an excellent ad.
I like to think that I've taught ds well, he's 17, his girlfriend is 15 and we have discussed the whole sex thing.
But I do know boys at his school that would be like that lad in the advert.
I think it should be accessable to all children the moment they start High School.

PerpetualAmnesia · 22/12/2012 14:23

I was raped at thirteen years old, so I do think it's an important advert, but I can also understand why a graphic advert may upset parents with young children. I would take it as an opportunity to discuss being safe and how it is okay to say no if at any point she feels uncomfortable.

WeWilsonAMerryChristmas · 22/12/2012 14:31

I think it's a brilliant advert. I also think its the tiniest bit hypocritical to offer your dd unfettered access to the Internet and then to complain abut this particular advert.

And you really, really need to rethink your ideas on gender. I really hope you don't have a DS as you just don't seem to like them very much, do you?

LadyBeagleBaublesandBells · 22/12/2012 14:33

I also think that the advert lets young boys and girls know that yes, this is rape.
I think many young girls feel pressurised into having sex before they're ready, because all their peers are apparently doing it.
And some will be in an incident like in the advert and blame themselves, and not realise they were actually raped.

ZombiesAreClammyDodgers · 22/12/2012 19:39

startail your gender stereotypes are astonishing.

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Startail · 23/12/2012 02:38

Of course I talk to DD about what she gets up to on line and I walk in and out all the time.

All her emails copy to me.

That I don't trust a piece of software to do my parenting doesn't make me a bad parent.

No I don't think on her own she'd seek out explicit sex, round at certain of her friends I'm less sure.

But living in the sticks means that risk is limited to rare play dates.

Sorry bed calls

OP posts:
trapclap · 23/12/2012 07:35

Do you have anything more to say about the ad campaign, since reading the respojsesvto your OP?

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