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AIBUngrateful?

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CailinDana · 09/12/2012 11:28

It's my birthday today. All posts are required to include happy birthday or I will sit on you. It is a significant birthday cough 30 cough.

My birthday present was going away with my mother and sister for the weekend a few weeks ago. DH looked after DS (nearly 2) although he did have some help from his best friend who stayed over. DH has never ever looked after DS for an entire day entirely on his own. I have, many times. That weekend was the first time I've ever been away from DS overnight.

Anyway, it's sort of a tradition in our family that the birthday person gets pampered on their birthday or the nearest weekend. Yesterday I took DS to a birthday party so DH had much of the day to himself, which to be fair he did use to do some DIY. He then offered to get up with DS this morning (despite it being my turn) as part of the pampering thing. Great. I got up at 9:30, DH made pancakes, all good.

To set the scene, I'm 29 weeks pregnant and really feeling it. I also have a stinking cold. DS is recovering from said cold and is a miserable lump at the moment. DH has the cold too. DH was looking pathetic so I asked if he wanted to go back to bed, trying to be sympathetic. And he said YES! And now he's gone back!

So for the last hour on my birthday DH has been asleep while I sit in the sitting room on my own with an extremely unreasonable DS, feeling shit and pregnant while DH has sloped off to bed because he has a manflu a cold. I'm feeling pretty darn annoyed about it, but pregnancy makes me angry so I thought I'd check with you lovely people as to whether I should just suck it up?

To be clear, when DH gets up (don't know when that'll be) I'll be going back to bed, DH will be making dinner, and I will not be doing one ounce of childcare.

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fairylightsandtinsel · 09/12/2012 11:30

happy birthday, give him an hour, then get him up x

HECTheHallsWithRowsAndFolly · 09/12/2012 11:36

Happy birthday! Thanks

It's mine too. The Big Four Oh for me next year Grin

I think your husband is being unreasonable. Kick him out of bed!

and in future, never ask someone if they want to do something if you don't actually mean it! Grin

peaceandlovebunny · 09/12/2012 11:38

happy birthday.

twinklesparkles · 09/12/2012 11:38

Happy birthday hun :)

"Accidently" wake him up?

Hope you have a good birthday

CailinDana · 09/12/2012 11:39

Thanks guys. Happy birthday to you too Hec :) I know I shouldn't have offered slaps self but he's such a pain when he's sick that that's my go-to reaction - feck off to bed if you're going to huff and puff otherwise, just act normal ffs! I didn't expect him to accept!

I would have thought on my birthday of all days he'd just get on with it, but no, clearly a strong young man with a cold needs to go to bed and leave his sick pregnant wife alone with a stroppy toddler on her birthday!

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TidyDancer · 09/12/2012 11:42

Happy Birthday.

But honestly, you did offer. It's not like he slopped off without you giving him the chance to.

You know you can't complain about this!

Give him a short nap and then go and get him up. :)

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