A little backstory, I moved out of the city recently due to continuing ill health, I'm living two hours away by train and I commute to work. I stay in a bed and breakfast some nights but I also take the spare room in my friend's house some nights. The arrangement suits us both, I contribute to the house account and because we''re both disabled (I have fibromyalgia and she has epilepsy) we can look after each other a bit.
The house she lives in is owned by her Dad, he lives next door. Her brothers also lived here but one moved out last year and the other just moved to Austria. She has seizures at least twice a week and shouldn't really be left alone. On top of that, the house is in really bad condition. It's old, the heating is woefully inadequate and there's a draught coming from the windows all the time. The shower is, to be crude, like getting pissed on from a great height, only one nozzle is letting water through and according to my friend all the pipes need replacing. I can't take a shower here because the cold gives me muscle spasms and I'm already sitting on a hot water bottle with a scarf and gloves on round the clock. I get dressed under the duvet.
My friend doesn't pay rent, she gets the DLA which mostly goes to food and bills, so technically she's not a tenant, but I don't see why her father should let the house deteriorate like this, not to mention letting his vulnerable disabled daughter live like this. His own house has double glazing, modern furnishings, he's just gotten married and been on holiday so money's not the problem. And I know she's an adult but she's an adult that will never drive, may never work and has little support or encouragement. I'm even older and working but my father would never let me live like this. Am I justified in getting this angry?