To put the phone down on DSS's mother

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Well obviously I am, and I'm not going to, but FGS.

DH and DSS's mum were in court this week to sort out holiday contact. The court ordered in DH's favour (roughly half hols) as DSS had very firmly said that was what he wanted. It was also ruled that twice daily phone calls be limited to once a day.

So DSS's mum is not very happy and after 8 years of virtual 'radio silence' has rung our house 7 times today to talk to DSS. We are hoping that when things calm down a bit it will go back to normal, but FGS! She's obviously making a point, she's NEVER rung the house phone before, she has always called DH's mobile.

We're going out tomorrow to get away from it.

what's wrong with her ringing the house

of course 7 times is not needed

unplug the phone

Just unplug the phone?

Switch the ringer off and make sure you have 1571 in case anyone needs to leave you a message.

Don't want to unplug the phone, my Dad is in hospital and I need to be as contactable as possible. So I've been leaping up everytime the phone rings...

I see,

but if you are going out to get away from it. You are away from the phone anyway iyswim. So does it matter if you are out or in all day with it off.

You won't be able to hear it either way. Give the hospital your mobile number as the primary.

Would that help?

Take a deep breath and get through it today and I'm sure it will have calmed down by tomorrow.

What is she calling about?

Does your SS want to talk to her?

Just let SS answer the phone, no reason for you or DH to talk to her and SS will just let her know its all a bit OTT.

Give the hospital your mobile number and unplug the phone. She'll get bored soon.

Right breathing deeply...she has had a 'reason' each time she calls - DSS is going to a Christmas do tonight for his football team, so first it was to try and make him go to the afternoon party instead of the evening version that his team are going to, and since then it has been with tiny details about arrangements (eg DH is dropping him at the venue - one call was to 'confirm' he was going to be dropped at the venue).

Really she is ringing to have a go at DH. I have no problem with DSS calling his mum if he wants to talk to her, but 7 times has been really intrusive. We are going to my parents house tomorrow so that eases the issue - DSS is fed up with having to phone twice every day - he told the Cafcass Officer so, thus the recommendation that it is reduced. He phones in the evening to talk about his day, but then has to phone again in the morning, when all he has done is sleep.