to want to send ds to the 'good' school less than 1 mile from house?

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But we are not in the catchment area.

Instead I am in the catchment area for a school that we will have to drive to. Plus its by a sewage works and I do not want ds to breathe in such 'raw' fumes for six years. So I already have plans that will start with going to see my local council and seeing how set the catchment areas are but could at the most extreme end involve moving house.

Anyway I had a little discussion with a lady who thought if the middle class parents don't send their children to schools in more deprived areas/conditions they will never get better.

While I think the sentiment is admiral when it comes to my ds I just want him to have the best education experience that I can get for him.

(Lady in the discussion doesn't have any children at the moment).

AIBU?

The lady you spoke to is totally right but it's a different thing when it's your own child. I'd do the same as you tbh. YANBU imo.

Yanbu

I have been thinking about this myself as I am in the catchment for a school with a reputation for having lots of children with antisocial behaviour problems and parents who themselves who are quite aggressive and antisocial when dealing with school staff etc

My child is only a toddler at the moment but I will be doing all I can to get him into a better school with parents who care about their children and have high expectations for education and deal with school staff in a polite and well socialised manner.

I see it this way.... I have spent the last 2 years doing the best I can throughout pregnancy and motherhood to raise my child the best I can. I don't want him to be affected negatively by children who haven't been raised in a caring way and I don't want adults modelling antisocial behaviour around him either!

I think it might be one issue I choose not to discuss with others though, as I think a lot may say what that lady you spoke to said!