To think that if you are going to have a joint (for 3) birthday party, you shouldn't complain about too many guests

[MadDonner]

Received invitation for birthday party. For 3 separate children, all unrelated, different birth dates, one the previous weekend, one the following (which is in Christmas holidays).

Bit of a pain to be honest, to have to buy three presents, even two is unusual, but anyway having sent out this invitation to include inside a printed slip reading

'Please could you only confirm if you are going to come, so that we can invite other children.'

Not hard declining that invite, I have to say.....

Huh? What's wrong with that or have I missed something?

There's nothing worse than parents confirming and then dropping out

It's expensive and a waste of a place that another child could have filled.

How is that complaining about too many guests?

It's a bit rude but I can't quite put my finger on why. It's almost like they have a guest list, then a runners up list for people they don't quite like enough to invite outright, but would invite if someone they like more can't make it? I'm sure everyone does it, they're just not as blatant!

It's obviously rude not to turn up to party you said you would come to. But it's equally rude IMO tell people that it's rude not to come to. Nobody wants to receive manners advice with their birthday invitation.

1. you are huffy aren't you?
2. everyone does this, that's what RSVPs are for. they just don't put it in the invitation
3. surely one kids party is better than three, one weekend after the next?

But how is that complaining about too many guests? You title makes no sense!

So how are there 3 children all sharing one party when you said there are actually 2 parties?

It could be worded better but I understand why if you have limited numbers you can invite and people dont rsvp and then don't turn it is frustrating as you could invite someone else. It is my pet hate people not rsvp to party invites.

DD was at a party this afternoon where people who had not confirmed turned up. The poor mum hadn't got enough party bags and was having to do some frantic re arranging ( See, DH - this is why I always way over cater on party bags..)

However I think the idea of an A list and a B list is a bit off....

I can only imagine that their thinking is that

• at this time of year a party may not convenient for some - no problem, just let us know
• it being a triple party there will have been many kids each parent/ child would have liked to invite but couldn't due to restrictions in numbers - so if your child can't come let us know and we can invite others.

speaking as a parent with a child with a birthday v close, to Christmas

Your title and your OP don't quite match...