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AIBU?

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AIBU to give foodie friends an Indian takeaway?

21 replies

amverytired · 07/12/2012 20:47

Good friend has invited herself, partner and new baby over for dinner tomorrow. Partner is serious foodie from the continent. They always pull out all the stops when we are invited to theirs. They are going over to his country for Christmas next week so it has to be tomorrow. I am currently a shattered mum of 3 young dc and dh is exhausted from long hours at work.
Dh will want a lie-in tomorrow (deserved), I want to put up tree and clean house as things have been hectic in the past while. One dc currently being assessed for ASD and we have had loads of appointments in the last few weeks - the house is a mess. I also need dh to get car tires for test next week. I feel stressed about what I can give them to eat - I suggested quiche (ok, not inspired but it was off the top of my head) and was told that her OH doesn't really do quiche (I can't really blame him, but still).
I came up with a solution - we have really good Indian closeby (that has won awards) - we buy lots of nice beer/wine (they also like wine as well as food unfortunately) and order an Indian and chill out with the nicely decorated tree.
Is this a crap idea?

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lookingfoxy · 07/12/2012 20:50

Yanbu, I think it was a bit rude that they invited themselves over and then said no to your quiche, they should take what they are offered and be gracious about it.

CaliforniaSucksSnowballs · 07/12/2012 20:50

Do it. Just cause he's a foodie he can't expect everyone to cook to his standards. If he doesn't like it, then tough titties. Lots of wine will help

Fakebook · 07/12/2012 20:56

Yanbu. Do it. Or you could order early and pretend you cooked everything yourself.

Flatbread · 07/12/2012 20:56

Good Indian food should appeal to a foodie. Go for it, it sounds like a lovely evening

ifancyashandy · 07/12/2012 20:57

I'd be bloody delighted. YANBU.

HassledHasASledge · 07/12/2012 21:00

It sounds absolutely great - far more relaxing for everyone involved.

redandyellowbits · 07/12/2012 21:00

If your friend invited herself over and is now being particular about what he eats I would just say 'sorry, that's not convenient for us' and use the evening to have a well-deserved rest instead.

Hosting guests especially fussy or demanding ones sounds like a tiring chore you don't really need at the moment.

Postpone till after Christmas.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 07/12/2012 21:00

They invite themselves and then say they dont "do" quiche.

They sound lovely.

I vote you cancel and relax in with your family.

Dillydollydaydream · 07/12/2012 21:01

I'd be over the moon with an Indian.

SDTGisAChristmassyWolefGenius · 07/12/2012 21:01

I would rather have a takeaway than know my friend was stressing about a meal when she's got as much on her plate as you have. If they are good friends, this is how they will feel.

PS - I haven't had an Indian takeaway since I moved to Scotland over 4 years ago - can I come too, please?

ELR · 07/12/2012 21:05

Go for it! I consider myself a foodie, and I love a good curry. You could always make raita and tomato and onion chutney youself and geetas mango chutney is the best. You coud maybe serve some fresh pineapple thinly sliced with coconut yogurt for pudding Jamie Oliver style.

ravenAK · 07/12/2012 21:06

Definitely. Yum yum!

Cooking showy-offy food for foodie friends is only worth doing if you actually enjoy it & have time.

Can be lots of fun, but if it turns into a stress-fest, what's the point?

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amverytired · 07/12/2012 21:15

Oh thank you!
I must admit - my initial thought was that it was an inspired idea, but after half an hour or so I was getting cold feet. It really is our turn though, I will have to come up with something good for after the new year. She is my v. good friend, so inviting herself over is excused, but I was a little when my suggestion of something like an easy-option quiche (I actually can't believe I suggested that) was not received well at all.

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redexpat · 07/12/2012 21:17

Please may I come too? Sounds bloody marvellous.

whois · 07/12/2012 21:44

It's a good idea.

Get a selection of stuff tho so you can all share and don't just order a bloody korma!

Pendeen · 07/12/2012 22:02

Maybe they don't like indian food? It's not to everyone's taste you know.

But I agree they do sound rather pretentious.

AgentProvocateur · 07/12/2012 22:08

Sounds like a fab idea. I'm a foodie, and I'd love this. (I'd also hate a quiche. Shudder!)

theoriginalandbestrookie · 07/12/2012 22:13

I'd love it, but there was a thread a few years ago now about this, and some people were quite precious about takeaways - but then they would probably also be precious about quiche as well.

cozietoesie · 07/12/2012 22:14

A good Indian is absolutely superb - go for it. (Just get a mixture of stuff.)

AgentProvocateur · 07/12/2012 22:23

As an (unpleasant) aside, quiche is know in our house as keech, which is a Glasgow word for a shit.

Narked · 07/12/2012 22:24

If in doubt, just order the food yourself, avoid chips and get a 2/3 veggie dishes, 2/3 meat ones, naan and rice. Heat the serving dishes in the oven and lay it all out on the table for everyone to share with lime pickle, raita etc. And mention the awards.

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