Please tell me what to do! MIL/DH/Poorly baby

[newmummytobe79]

OK ... this has just happened so I'm seething! But I need some perspective!

Baby is not well but well enough to stay inside at GP's.

DH told his parents baby was a bit off - hence he'd not brought the buggy.

I pick DC up and GP's say all has been great and they went out shopping. Fine I think and glad DC is on the mend.

Now I don't like baby having chocolate/sugar etc but really dont see a problem in having them as treats every now and again. I know baby has them every week at GP's so refrain from giving them myself most of the time.

I was told baby had had biscuits today and walked in to baby eating a bowl of sugary cereal. Fine. I bit my lip and saw it as treat day.

I bring DC home and put down for a nap. Baby doesn't seem 'much better' as I was told and has thrown up all over the cot and favourite toys - which will not be dry for bedtime!

And the sick smelt of chocolate.

So ... do I calm down for half an hour. Make the cot up and hope another toy will do for bedtime.

Or do I tell DH and tell him I'm not pleased!

Please remember this has just happened so don't bite my head off ... just tell me if I shut up and put up or say something? [sick smelling icon]

oh and remember this is on top of the bin issue! (see other post!) so could be overeacting!

How old is baby? 6,12,18,24 months?

Well really, if your baby is not well then he shouldn't have been with GP's anyway.

I dunno, maybe the journey home made him sick, maybe he just feels shit and would have thrown up anyway even if he hadnt had any sugary stuff.

TBH if they are doing you favours by looking after baby when you are at work or whatever then unless they are shovelling shit down his throat at every opportunity I wouldnt get too het up over it.

I would say something personally.
You had told them he was a bit unwell so why all the choc/sugary treats....if you dc's was older then I maybe wouldn't say anything but a baby...then I would say something!

14 months

thanks Betty - I thought as much - just angry and covered in sick :(

Good to get a sense of perspective on here :)

Sorry should say DC....not Ds's

How old is your baby?

Sick may well have been unrelated to the chocolate etc if this is what she normally has at Grandma's and it doesn't make her sick.

It sounds like the chocolate and sugar is a separate issue and one you might want to bring up if you're very uncomfortable with it... I think (esp if the baby is young) it is not unreasonable to suggest a sensible limit on sweet things, this does not automatically make you a 'sugar nazi', you needn't say none, ever, if you don't mind the odd treat.

Personally, I'm of the opinion that young babies don't need sweets and chocolate etc so why would you give them it? If they're old enough to ask for it, then having it as a treat is fine. I'm aware it's a red rag issue on MN though, so I hope this doesn't turn into another debate.

Your baby might have been sick even without the sugary snacks.

newmummy - no need to be

This parenting lark, it's a bloody minefield sometimes :)

i think you should say something.

the baby's not feeling well, so they give him chocolate and sugary treats? that's just asking for trouble.

why didn't they just give him toast?

Choccy bikky for poorly baby therapy, oh dear, one-won't-hurt. I am sure GM would be upset to think your DS was affected. Okay don't go ape shit, just relate the whole throwing up episode and don't spare any details next time you see them. Don't dwell on it for now and don't give DH a roasting, presumably they brought him up to adulthood okay. Next time you leave him in GM's care, ask gently to go easy with sweets, he had that reaction last time. Off colour already so perhaps veering towards nausea but not helped.

Off to read other thread, hope DS is better now.

Yes baby might have been sick without chocolate. But who give a sick baby chocolate? I would let GPs know he had been sick, no blame or anything but maybe say next time he is poorly to stick to very bland food.

A bit "off"? Unless it was something easy to spot like a cold, a bit "off" could as well be the start of a tummy bug.

The chocs and sweets would for sure not helped, as these viruses need sweets to "break out properly".

For you to avoid it, newmummy, ensure you have a bland diet of lean chicken, veg, and stay off the biscuits, chocs, crisps, etc, for the next couple of days.

x-post with Donkey, who put it better.

The bin and toys : eek! Definitely knock that game on the head.

God, it's the same woman!

what is wrong with your MIL?!!

Why did you send baby to gp's house, if you knew baby was unwell?

Well DS (19 months) has been sick twice today but apart from having to have an early nap and not eating breakfast he hasn't appeared unwell, so your DS may well have seemed ok earlier if he has a similar bug.

YANBU! But then I'm the wrong person to comment! My MIL drives me round the bend. My little 5 week old girl is poorly (was in hospital Sunday with bronchillitus) and MIL has just thrown a massive strop because I wouldn't let her take her out for the day in the pram.

Um. HELLO. it's minus 5, she's poorly and she's only 5 weeks old. Oh, and I'm breastfeeding. So why the hell would you think I would even let you take her away from me for the day !!

You can tell I also have no perspective on this ;)

Why do some MILS think that they can take over and just ignore the wishes of the gc's mother?!