To be upset about feeling ugly?

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We're getting married next year and have just had the photos back from our pre wedding shoot with the photographer. I look bloody awful in them!

I know being attractive is not the be all and end all and being a good person is so much more important but I just wanted to look amazing on our wedding day and these photos just confirm that unless I have a head transplant, it's not going to happen.

AIBU to be upset about this? Or should I get a grip?

I HATE having my photo taken, in fact I am a bit phobic about it and get all sweaty BUT my wedding photos were amazing and we had a great photographer, he was a friend of my sister's and a press photographer so all the photos looked really natural. I would suggest trying another photographer personally.
Don't forget on the day you will be all glommed up like never before which makes all the difference especially in my case!

I looked fab with my baby - 11 years on I look like a fat blotchy lump

There are no ugly women ? just bad photographers!

My sister had one of those makeover photoshoots done and the photos were great ? could you see if you could get a deal on groupon etc for one and go before your wedding ? you would get tips on how to do your hair/makeup and how to pose. I think practicising in the mirror beforehand would help too.

Are you having your hair and makeup done professionally for your wedding? I recently had this for my engagement and big hair and false eyelashes can work wonders! Obviously I have never seen your nose, but if you think it is too big, a professional make up artist can make it look much smaller with the right make up ? my younger sister doesn?t like her nose and she does this and it is very effective. Like you, i can rarely be bothered, but on your big day, you will look gorgeous ? brides are always so happy.

Blame the photographer! I've NEVER seen an ugly bride - there's a luminescent quality to every woman on the day she gets married - you can't get it in a studio but it will be there on the day.

In the meantime, you've got until next year to sit down with a trusted buddy and analysis what you love, what you hate, what you can adjust , what you can hide and what you'll just have to put up with.

You'll knock them dead on the day - happiness and love make every woman gorgeous!