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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask if I'm rude or if DB IBU when I comment and joke about how bad his financial situation is?

50 replies

CaptainCrimbo · 07/12/2012 13:00

It seems as though I have inadvertently upset a family member. Things have been very tight financially for DB and his DW. For example, only being able to afford to go abroad on holiday once a year, having to buy supermarket's own produce, having an old car etc. DB is doing temping work at min wage and his DP is on more, but not earning a wedge. They live in a small house, don't have much disposable income. They can only go away for the weekend maybe three or four times a year max, they don't buy many new clothes and things like that.

Apparently I've been rude because I make a lot of comments about how I know they haven't got much money, and told them a new car will financially cripple them. Joking about how DB's wife shouldn't get her hopes up about Xmas presents from DB because of their financial situation isn't very nice either according to DB. They had a new carpet fitted and I jokingly asked how they could afford it, because DB hasn't got a real job and they've got no money. Apparently I'm being thoughtless and rude. Xmas Confused I'm not being nasty, but it's true, they are in the shit financially.

AIBU? Was I was rude, or are they just being overly sensitive? I think they just need to grow thicker skins. I think DB is being ridiculous, but I'm also prepared to be proven wrong.

OP posts:
pELFicFloorClenchReminder · 07/12/2012 13:11

YABU for posting a reverse AIBU.

Either that or, congratulations, you have won the 2012 AIBU special prize, please make your way to the far side of fuck to collect your certificate.

cozietoesie · 07/12/2012 13:12

Sorry, Princess. You forgot the only getting away for the weekend 3 or 4 times a year.

PrincessMononoke · 07/12/2012 13:13
Grin
AppleOgies · 07/12/2012 13:13

You sound incredibly rude... I can't believe you even need to ask.

PrincessMononoke · 07/12/2012 13:13

Is it an episode of Eastenders ?

AvonCallingBarksdale · 07/12/2012 13:14

If this is for real, YABVVVVVVU. It's shit being strapped for cash. People taking the piss would make it 100 times worse. If this is a reverse AIBU, then YASBU, just post properly first time round.
HTH

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 07/12/2012 13:14

The financial situation (whether it's yours or your brother's) doesn't sound that bad to me.

Only one holiday? Good God, how awful.

AppleOgies · 07/12/2012 13:15

Oh is it a reverse aibu???
Bloody hate reverse aibu-s!

Summerblaze · 07/12/2012 13:15

I agree with everyone else that you are either a bitch or this is a reverse AIBU.

Tiredmumno1 · 07/12/2012 13:17

Will you just tell us if it's a reverse, as they can get annoying trying to second guess.

Of course it's rude and childish to comment on someone's financial situation, no one else's business really.

Momsnatter · 07/12/2012 13:18

Ha! You sound like the sister off 'Him & Her'

Tiredmumno1 · 07/12/2012 13:19

Haha momsnatter Grin

IceNoSlice · 07/12/2012 13:19

Must be reverse AIBU.

YABU for posting a reverse.

Hippymama · 07/12/2012 13:19

Yes, yabu and you sound like a right cow.

quoteunquote · 07/12/2012 13:20

Him & Her

love it.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 07/12/2012 13:21

Please make your way to the far side of fuck to collect your certificate is brilliant, pELF.

SuzySheepSmellsNice · 07/12/2012 13:26

I wouldn't put up with comments like that from anyone. How rude.

RedTinsel · 07/12/2012 13:26

Annoying reverse AIBU or you're a complete bitch.

mumofthemonsters808 · 07/12/2012 13:31

Not sure if this is a piss take or not, anyway here goes..yes you are are being rude,smug and obnoxious and if I was your DB I would be disgusted by your comments.By the sound of things I don't think DB is in dire straits financially, only being able to afford one holiday, a new carpet, weekends away would do me.Let's hope your financial circumstances never become the topic of someone's jokes.

EleanorGiftbasket · 07/12/2012 13:35

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

crikeybill · 07/12/2012 13:38

Agree with PP.
REALLY annoying reverse AIBU or you are a total bitch Grin

Fakebook · 07/12/2012 13:38

Holiday abroad ONLY ONCE A YEAR? They must be proper poor then.

NoKnidForABed · 07/12/2012 13:41

I don't think the OP will be back. Grin

OWe3WiseKneeHairsOfOrientAre · 07/12/2012 14:43

Still not back?

I wonder why? Xmas Grin

EugenesAxeChoppedDownANiceTree · 07/12/2012 14:50

Oh no... I'm having a real fuckwit moment. By reverse AIBU are you all saying she's posting what's happened to her/him and is trying to get support by getting a load of YABUs from everyone?

If so... yes revAIBUs are a bit passive aggressive and annoying.

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