AIBU that the 'Ibiza couple' on 'one born' make me feel inadequate

[howtobehappy]

I watched One Born on demand yesterday, the Ibiza couple, cannot remember there names, seemed to make everything look so easy. I am not jealous of the easy birth as I know that my birth had a lot of interventions to keep me and my DD alive which I am so grateful of, I view a sucessful birth as one where mum and baby are alive and well so it is not that that bothers me. I am just in awe how they are living their pre baby life with their daughter. My life has changed so much and seems so much harder now, I have a 3 year old DD and am pregnant with my second. My life is a routine of toddler groups, activites at home, supermarket shopping, working part time. One example I could think of is that to put some make up on and look semi ok I put pepper pig on for my daughter each day, the girl on there did full make up and hair with her little girl just playing with her high heel. It just look like her daughter slotted in to their lovely life, while my life has totally changed. I want to make my life pre kids with the DCs just fitting in like they have, has anyone achieved this? I just felt like a failure watching it like I have made my life into a mundane routine since DD arrived.

[SomersetONeil]

Hold the phone...

The baby is called Eivissa...?!

[Glitterknickaz]

Yep

[StateofConfusion]

Well I think they're awful, that's no childhood for

[Gilberte]

howtobehappy

If it makes you feel more adequate. I put my make up on in 5 minutes on the bus on the way to work.

If I haven't had a chance to wash my hair the night before I wet and gel it in the station toilets. (I'm glam me).

I have a quick ten to fifteen minutes to shower/dress in the mornings before DH goes to work but even though I will have been up since 6 I don't have much time to do anything for myself in the morning. I'm frequently to be found trrying to shovel a spoonful or two of porridge in, whilst wiping a bum, doing some colouring in, getting breakfasts ready for 2 DDs and wrestling them into their clothes whilst breaking up their fights.

[ovenchips]

I watched it too. If I am honest I made an instant judgement about them with their fashiony/looks/sleb interests but turns out I was wrong.

I found them rather lovely. Their closeness as a couple and the amount of doting on their daughter was touching.

I think what makes their DD seem to fit seamlessly into their lives (as far as you can ever tell from the telly) was because a) they run their own business together - that has got to hugely increase flexibility in having their DD around and b) they didn't seem to be short of money.

I really think a child could 'slot' into your life a lot more easily in those circumstances.

[drmummmsy]

Really? Christ they made me feel great about myself!

Don't feel like a failure!

[juneybean]

www.channel4.com/programmes/one-born-what-happened-next/4od#3447897

Except it's episode 2

[HarlettHoHoHoScara]

Thank you Juneybean

[DieDeutschLehrerin]

I thought they seemed nice enough and very devoted.

Unfortunately, I kept hearing, Eivissa and thinking, eviscerate

[GeraldineH]

I thought they were nice enough, though hugely annoying. I was thinking that Eivissa appeared to just be an accessory for them, albeit a massively loved accessory.

I wondered how they will manage once she gets a little older and isn't happy just being toted about looking at Dior tights, once she becomes a stroppy toddler with her own mind they may need to start changing their lives a bit more than they have needed to so far with a seemingly very agreeable and easy-going baby.

[WeeSooty]

O I'm glad it's not just me who felt that way!

They did seem totally lovey but I have an 8 week old DD, today I have not managed to brush my hair nevermind look glam! I also had birth from hell unlike her lovely birth

But I know my friends think I'm coping very well, I don't show them the stressy side, I thought maybe that's what they were doing

[PropertyNightmare]

I absolutely loved the episode of obem where the red bikini girl gave birth. It was easy, natural and perfect. I thought she was absolutely fabulous, a total star. Gutted to have missed the catch up show last night. Will it be repeated?

[HyvaPaiva]

You're right, Geraldine, about the baby having her own mind. I googled the show which took me to twitter: they recently tweeted that now the toddlers favourite game is 'laughing and running away in shops, cheeky girl'. Their lives may not have 'changed' much til now but it seems she's coming into her own, bless her . I'm not normally one to judge - and they seem sweet-hearted - but naming your baby Ibiza is a bit !

[snowtunesgirl]

PLEASE let them do a catch up with Joy and Fabio. They were the best couple EVER on there!

[GwendolineMaryLacedwithBrandy]

They were fanbloodytastic. She was so narky with him and he just muttered into his boots and ignored her. Brilliant :o

[PropertyNightmare]

Oh Joy and her bloke were so funny. She gave him such an earbashing. I sort of wondered why on earth they were together.

[PropertyNightmare]

Did they do a catch up on the young teenage posh girl with the thirty odd older guy her parents did not approve of. Can't remember any names.

[GeraldineH]

Ooo tonights starts in a few minutes, its just popped up on record schedule.

[peanutMD]

FreshGoose - Please offer up some advice on dealing with a toddler who gets up at
5am?

My 6yo DS has only recently started getting up after 7am before this it was anywhere between 5 and 6.30am so as I'm PG with DC2 I'd love to know how to force them to not think for themselves and not to know what they like/dislike.

It's dim-witted comments like yours that make people feel inadequate but then again I can't imagine that view would make a child feel particularly adequate either

[GeraldineH]

Not yet property. I remember her, she was very middle class and he had a history of drug use and arrests I think?

[piprabbit]

Here's the link.

I think they are rather a lovely couple.

But I did hoot at the increasingly panicked clearing up of milkshake from the white furniture at the Ibiza resort. Who thought feeding two toddlers gallons of milkshake wouldn't be devastatingly messy.

[GeraldineH]

Peanut I don't let my toddlers get up at 5am! They have stair gates on their doors so they can't come into our room and they get told that they can read books or play with their toys quietly if they are awake but mummy and daddy are still sleepy. It works with mine, might not for others though, I might just be very lucky that they have never put much of a fight up about it!

[PropertyNightmare]

Yes, Geraldine. That is the couple! I hope they are still together. It was a love against the odds style story. I think she wanted to. I think she wanted to be a broker or investment banker or similar. Hope it all works out for them.

As for children getting up early, I'm with you. Mine are allowed to play, read, chat etc but they are not 'allowed' to go downstairs or wake me/dh/the baby up at an ungodly hour. It's not a problem anyway as they quickly accepted a normal wake up time.

[serant]

Aww i think they are a lovely couple, very focused & hardworking, they have two buisness' both run from home.
They seem devoted to each other celebrating 10 yrs of marriage & the little girl seemed very contented, loved & happy.
I am personally not into fashion or keeping up apperances but hey each to there own eh!

[serant]

& yabvu