A quick bit of background first - DP is generally pretty decent chap. Mostly pulls his weight and is great with our DS. He is a part time SAHD. I have a full time job and earn most of our money/pay most of the bills. When I had DS he agreed to be a SAHD, as he was only doing casual work anyway. Once DS was born and was a few months old he got offered a new job - still casual, but better than his old job and with potentially good prospects for him. Most of the work is evenings and weekends but he does sometimes have to work during the day so we found a brilliant, flexible childminder that we all love. However, she does not like to work before 8am (has quite a few of her own kids and doesn't need the extra hassle of getting them ready with mindees in tow I guess!), which is totally fair enough. I don't normally start work until 9am so it's usually fine anyway.
However, every Wednesday I have to attend a whole staff meeting at work, with all out senior managers from 8.20am. This is part of my contracted hours. It takes at least 20 mins and often more like 30 mins to drive from childminders to my workplace, therefore as I can't drop DS off before 8am I will probably end up being late for work if I have drop him off on a Wednesday morning. Today is the first Wednesday that DP has had to work, so this has never been an issue before. He was starting work at 9am today. Childminder's house is a 10 minute walk up a hill from our house, then his work is 15 minute bus ride from there. We were all up in plenty of time. At 7.30am DP announces that he is not willing to drop DS at childminders because "pushing him up the hill (in pushchair - he's 1) will make him sweaty, and he will doesn't want to be sweaty and stinky all day at work". After a brief discussion of this I realised we were just both getting cross and time was being wasted, so in a huff I agreed to drop him off. Therefore I end up dropping him off, which did indeed make me 10 mins late for work. Grrrr.
I have been seething about this all day. I do feel a bit bad as DP has been working some very long days recently and he is working 9am - 10pm today in a fairly physical job, but I just don't think it's fair to expect me to be late for work (and look bad walking in late in front of my bosses) just because he can't be bothered to push the pushchair up the hill and get in a bit of a sweat!
AIBU?