To not want my DC to participate in nativity?

[Spru]

I asked school to excuse DC from nativity (due to religious reasons - we do not depict jesus/mary/joseph.) They were absolutely fine with it. Happened to mention this to work colleagues - and they basically told me that I wasn't willing to integrate!

I was a bit shocked that they saw it like this despite the fact that I explained why. I didn't realise that this decision was perceived as a lack of willingness to integrate - in a country which I have been born and brought up in.

I had to bite my tongue for the sake of peace!

So...MN jury... AIBU to exclude DC from nativity for religious reasons (note: DC is not excluded from other christmas activities at school). Am I just not integrating well into the society that I was born and brought up in?

TIA



(please be gentle)

[Spru]

brycie

Well i am glad that you too have pompously expressed your opinion. It is the season for goodwill and giving so I shall to graciously accept your criticism.

After all, i dont want to be accused of looking solely for affirmation and validation. :)

[SolidGoldFrankensteinandmurgh]

Well, all religious observance is inherently ridiculous, when you think about it. So are lots of things people like to do (such as ballet, football and buying Justin Beiber's music). But whatever wierd ridiculous shit people like to do or think is only problematic when it starts being a matter of trying to control what other people do or think. So in the OP's specific case, it's a bit daft to have such a stick up your arse about a school play but her DC aren't fussed about not participating and she'd not demanding that the school stop doing the play, so it's really not a big deal.

[Galvanise]

Not read all the messages...but have to say brycie when someone says it is her right to do something and then follows with an eye roll, well that is just bad and a sad attitude!

[Galvanise]

Sorry, the above should have read, when someone says it is her right to do something and then unofficially follows with an eye roll, well that is just bad and a sad attitude!

[Galvanise]

SGF you will find that its work colleagues who got a stick up their arse over op's decision Along with many more on this thread.

Also, its not just a school play is it.

[samandi]

Sounds a bit daft to me but you can do what you like. Personally I'd feel a bit sorry for a kid excluded but if s/he's fine with it then I don't see why anyone else should be upset on his/her behalf.