to have expected a note through the door about this parcel and wonder where it is?

[LRDtheFeministDude]

Very, very boring AIBU, but I've not had this situation before, since they changed the default option to 'leave with a neighbour'. This morning the postie knocked while I was in the shower and I then heard him knock on the flat opposite and ask could they take in a parcel for me.

By the time I'd thrown some clothes on the postie had of course gone and the neighbour had apparently gone out too. Just now I heard him come back so went to knock on his door and ask for my parcel. No reply. I knocked pretty loudly, too! I am just a bit concerned as I got no note through my door, so have no proof they tried to deliver (except having heard it all).

Is that just normal, or should they have left a note with me?

I would have expected a card saying "parcel at no43" or whatever, yes. How else are you supposed to know?

Yep. This is what bothers me. I'm sure neighbour is a perfectly nice man, but I've lived here since 2009 and have never managed to get more than three words out of him - and that was when I asked him if he could possibly stop playing Warcraft at full volume at 6am. I didn't expect a parcel, which is why I didn't manage to get to the door on time, but I think MIL has sent something.

WE never get a card from the postman to say who he has left parcel with, or even brought it at all.We just have to wait til a neighbour comes round with it!

If he has a loud gaming habit that might explain him not answering your knock; he may be wearing headphones and be oblivious to everything. I'd put a note through his door asking about it.

(Is it possible he didn't take it in?)

Perhaps the neighbour refused to take the parcel.

The postman will probably try to redeliver.

They are a bit rubbish at leaving cards around here too, so far the neighbours have been very honest though.

That's shocking, socharlotte! Glad I live rurally, my postie just opens the door and pops any parcels through, or on the rare times there's no-one in, we have a selection of outbuildings.

socharl - oh, that makes me feel better, maybe it's just normal.

old - ha! I would love to think he's wearing headphones but he never does.

He didn't refuse to take it, I heard him say yes. So I know he has it.

Okayyy ... this was bloody weird.

He's just knocked on my door (wearing pants and a vest - ok it's inside a block of flats but wtf?), shoved the parcel at me and closed the door just as I was saying thanks. Not a word.

I hope he's ok.

We are rural too OldLady.The postman chats to evetone and know everything going on in the village ! He often leaves parcels for us at my parents or brothers houses about half a mile away, if I'm out which is a bit of a pain

everyone not evetone!!

I've found we will get a note if it's a parcel but if its a packet we dont
The parcels are usually to be collected at the sorting office

We've had the opposite problem to the OP. We took in a package for the neighbours middle of last week. So far I have put 2 notes through the door and knocked twice a day for several days and they still haven't got the package.
I know they're not on holiday as their car has moved. I could hear movement behind the door on Sunday but they never opened it
weird

That is weird. And annoying for you!

We took a parcel in for a neighbour whilst they were away for a week last October half term. The neighbours returned and we waited for them to call and collect it promptly as they usually do. No one called. I looked at a slip of paper left with the parcel (my husband took the parcel in and hadn't read the slip), I realised the slip was the one that should have gone through the neighbour's door and of course, when I took it round, she knew nothing about it. The delivery company knocked at the door a week later and said they were trying to track the parcel. Turns out it wasn't even for our neighbour, just a mix up as they had the same name and similar postcode. This was definitely a parcel.