Aibu life in general

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I'm stuck in a job that I hate, can't change or quit.

DD is gorgeous but I couldn't be a SAHM as I would find it too hard.

DH is constantly whining about being tired, got too much to do (as if we all don't have anything to do)

Just generally fed up. What do I do to get myself out it?

Was recently ill and my support worker thinks I'm doing well.

Every day just seems like Groundhog Day!

Maybe you and your dh need something to look forward to-a reason to be working. Could you book a holiday? Or even a weekend away?

How old is your dd? Could you take up a hobby with her?

I think it's a rotten time of year to be feeling like this. It's cold, dark, Christmas can be a stress, everything can feel like a challenge/hard work etc

Sounds like you and your dh need to sit down, discuss what's wrong and how to fix it. You both sound fed up.

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YANBU. My life is groundhog day without the job.
I know my DH is tired, he tells me frequently enough. DD is hard work and it won't' stop fucking raining every day
I've no advice just sympathy.

We are both fed and up short tempered with each other. I feel quite lonely have only one real friend. Have been on facebook to join the mumsnet group. DH hates facebook and would be furious if he knew I was on it :(

Life is just so busy. DD is 16 months.

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It is a horrible month and easy to let negative thinking roll!

You have choices you don't have to be in a job you hate or with a moany husband!!

What makes you happy? Be kind and gentle to yourself, eat well, get enough sleep. Treat yourself as you would treat your daughter.

I find a gratitude list helps. Counting all my blessings, actually writing them down. Taking it back to basics. I have my health, I'm not sick, I have a job (particularly in this climate, it may be rubbish at the minute but what does that job afford you to do?) ect ect

It will pass too, but it's up to you to take responsibility and make done changes!!!

We went to London about a month ago without DD which was good but it was soon back to reality.

It's hard to take control of how I'm feeling. I just feel like its getting on top of me. I dread going into work and am really grumpy with DH.

I have a dc almost the same age so I know how things are with a little one

Have you and your dh been together a while? How has he adjusted to parenthood?

With our first dc, things got very strained between dh and I until dc was about 2. Just because the whole family dynamics changed and our whole life changed. We lost perspective of why we were together and took each other for granted. Got to the point where it was silly point scoring with each other.

That was a few years ago though and for us, the best thing to do was talk to each other. Support each other. Meet each other half way. Remember why you got together. It's very easy to get dragged into the Groundhog Day routine and it can be very bleak.

At times, being parents of a young one is difficult and you need to be a team not at loggerheads.

Sorry, if this doesn't apply to you-just my experience.

Could you or your dh reduce your hours at work for a while? Would that help at all?