To be concerned but not know if i should report this?

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I live in social housing and I was at my car this morning when I overheard the Guy a couple of doors down make crude sexual comments about a 14 year old girl who hangs around with his step daughter.

AIBU to be very concerned but I don't know who to complain to or if its worth complaining? The comments were made to his brother. His girlfriend is very strange and dosent talk or answer her door.

Yuck. He knows full well how old she is too if it's his stepdaughter's friend. Disgusting!

contact the school? do you know the girls name? does your dd know the girls parets or where she lives?

Omg - that's so sick so sorry you've overheard that conversation - I'll bet you wish you hadn't!
I would try talking to someone about it - I think I would because then I would feel like I have done the moral thing and informed someone about something that could potentially happen. You've done the right and honest thing and done your best to safeguard that poor girl! Defo the housing association or 101 - maybe even social services?? Presumably the SD lives in his home! Oh god, I've gone right off my toast thinking about this! What a sick sick man.
I hope you're ok - I would be traumatised I think! Good luck !

Actually I think chazs idea of speaking to the school about it would be the best thing tbh. The more I think about it the more worrying I find it that someone responsible for a child can speak about a child that way. They will know both girls and know the best way to proceed.

Good idea about contacting the school. I included about his girlfriend as I can't knock on her door and tell her.

It makes me wonder what he thinks about his step daughter too if he's coming out with that.

Agree, it's very worrying he's step father to a girl of the same age, if that is how he talks about children Good luck with your phone calls today OP

I know the comments aren't illegal but I feel I should report them to someone. I'm not someone who worries unnecessarily,but this has me worried.

I think you tell someone too. I think if I knew the name of the step daughter and her school I would ring them and tell them what he said.

What he said is just wrong on all levels.

Oh horrible :(

Ring school and ask to speak to the person responsible for child protection. They should have advice/contacts to help.

Yes, good idea nanny

I rang the school and gave the SD name and described the friend and told them of the comments. They thanked me for my concern and said it would be looked into.

I truly hope he is just a filthy mouth and that all the children are safe and unharmed.

God that's grim

Well done OP.

I think you have done the right thing.

Well done. It may well have been him being a vile foul mouthed twat, but there is a chance that it could be more. You have 100% done the right thing.

Thank you EverLong

Well done OP - definitely done the right thing.

Thank you Chaz and missy and everyone for your replies. I hope my nerves stop jangling now. I was afraid to put this here as I only recently n/c and didn't want to cause faces lol.

Another one here telling you you've done the right thing in telling the school. They can monitor the situation and are most likely to be aware if there are any other issues to take note of.

Sometimes it's only when lots of little things are put together in one place that a problem can be spotted, hence the current policy of schools working with SS and other agencies in dealing with at risk children.

Well done- best to not ignore these things. It's our duty to try and protect everyone- no matter whose daughter.

Well done OP

I doubt you would get a face OP, not over something like that.

Have a and catch your breath x

Well done OP - you have definitely done the right thing. I hope it is just his foul mouth and nothing more .... But it sure does make you think! What a sick pervert!

Have yourself a cup of tea now - settle your nerves!