To tell dd that Santa won't be sending her a message from the PNP this year because he doesn't exist.

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She has also asked me if she can buy him A present to leave out on Xmas eve to sy thank you for delivering everyone's presents.

She is 11!

I have to tell her don't I before she finds out from school and blabs to ds or gets laughed at

Or do we have one final year of believing before she goes to secondary next year.

Have one final year of believing then you've got a whole year to gently break the news.

Keep it going as long as you can! We did with our DD. She says she had started to suspect there was no santa but enjoyed the pretence anyway. We still leave stuff out for santa and a carrot for Rudolph (DD are 15 and 20!).

Have one last year, I think it's probably easier to find out in spring/summer so it doesn't take the shine off Christmas.

Santa doesn't need presents just a nice big glass of whiskey in our house. I suspected he had a drink problem when I was a child I didn't understand how he could drink a glass of whisky at every house and still fly his sledge.

We still send one to our 11yr old. He knows about Santa, but still enjoys it... don't be so mean, these are the precious moments that make a lifetimes treasure.

DD3 still believed in FC at 11 and so did some of her friends. All three of my DDs loved leaving mince pies out and doing all the FC stuff well into their teens. They didn't still believe but just loved the fun.

Noo don't spoil the magic! Whether she believes or is playing along for you , it's still magical :)

Play along with it. For all you know she may well have her doubts about FC. But there's nothing wrong with keeping the magic going. We always put out a nip of port and a mince pie for FC long after my dcs stopped believing. It was part of the fun and disbelief didn't actually get in the way.

Going to go against the grain here and say at 11 I think you should gently break the news that santa doesnt exist. Just my opinion though and understand if you and other posters would want to continue, but I personally would say the "magic of xmas" ie.goodwill, charity, etc is real but santa isnt.

Keep it going as a tradition if you want to, but if she goes into school 'believing' then she is most definitely going to get teased.

What nanny said!

Yeah get one last year in. Next year obv when she is at secondary school then yes you will have to tell her but for now, let her just have more magical year :)