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11 year old girls at a sleepover watching 15 rated films?

49 replies

sandyballs · 02/12/2012 21:26

Views please. Irrelevant that they are girls really, views from mums of boys too.

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cafebistro · 02/12/2012 21:29

It would completely depend on the film. Does the film have sexual references or violence? Also it would depend on the children too.

BalthierBunansa · 02/12/2012 21:30

Depends what film it is and what the parents think.

HousewifefromBethlehem · 02/12/2012 21:31

No I wouldn't be happy at all.

GreatBallsofFluff · 02/12/2012 21:33

It entirely depends on the film and the children. I remember our year 7 English teacher showing us a 15 cert film in class, but it was one from the 70s, so the mere suggestion of sex gave it a certificate 15.

RightsaidFreud · 02/12/2012 21:34

Depends on the film and whether other girls parents had been asked if it was ok.

dexter73 · 02/12/2012 21:36

Depends on the film. If it was Beetlejuice I wouldn't mind but if it was Final Destination then I would.

Hulababy · 02/12/2012 21:36

My DD is 10y and in Y6. Many of her friends are now 11y. No, I don't think i would be happy with this, although I guess it does depend on what film. Some older films are rated 15 but would only be 12 now - but even so, they should check with parents beforehand and always err on side of caution with our people's children.

dinkybinky · 02/12/2012 21:38

Dont expect too much from women on here, most think its okay to give their children alcohol at 14 so watching a 15 film at 11 will be the norm I suppose.

OpheliaPayneAgain · 02/12/2012 21:38

Depends on the child/depends on the film.

Eg Amityville Horror - hell, that scares the shit out of me - and its 15 rated now.

timeforachangebaby · 02/12/2012 21:40

They are so sneaky though, I used to try to monitor what they were watching, but they would bring them in hidden in books, in different cases, all sorts (SD), it came to a head when they all had nightmares watching Hostel at about 13.

I went ballistic at SD and removed the TV and DVD player from her room for a while, but these days, now they have internet access ...................

cafebistro · 02/12/2012 21:41

What Dinkybinky? Is it not ok to give your children alcohol at 14? Wink

Madeyemoodysmum · 02/12/2012 21:41

Totally depends on film.
I watched End of watch at cinema last night rated 15. Not a great deal of sex very mild. But extreme swearing and gangster violence and I would not be happy with an eleven yr old watching it at all. I was disturbed in my 40's!

something like The shawshank redemption I would not be so upset about.
More cultural if you like.

I've noticed film ratings have gone down in the last few years, 12 rated now seem to be what would have been a 15r 10 yrs ago. And 12A seem to be far to violent or scary in some cases for younger kids. It does upset me and I wish I could do something about it, without sounded like Mary Whitehouse?!

BinksToEnlightenment · 02/12/2012 21:42

It depends entirely on the film.

sandyballs · 02/12/2012 21:43

Reluctant to say what it was for fear of outing myself but it has lots of sexual references and bad language, no violence. Parents weren't asked. DD thinks its awesome that she's seen a 15 cert film. There are loads of films they could have watched, why the rush to see 'older' films?

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Eastpoint · 02/12/2012 21:43

I wouldn't show a film which was rated as too old for them unless I had checked with their parents first. Plenty of 12s which they haven't seen. Didn't get a 15 for my 14 yr old DD's birthday last year as not necessary. I was annoyed when my 11 yr old DS saw a 15 at a party - inappropriate and a very misogynistic film. Won't give my 14 yr old alcohol either and I doubt I'll change my mind shortly (she's nearly 15). Very bad for their livers and I think her friends' parents would be very upset.

I am lucky though that she & her friends are not interested in acting old for their years, more into music, drama, ballet & sport thankfully.

lurkedtoolong · 02/12/2012 21:44

Depends on the film. One of my favourite films for sleepovers when I was 12/13 was Dirty Dancing and it was 15. I was very upset when an aunt told me it was totally unsuitable.

GaryBuseysTeeth · 02/12/2012 21:44

I'd be fine with it.

It's what you do at sleepovers (at least it was when I was 11).

freddiefrog · 02/12/2012 21:46

Depends on the film.

I'm not massively strict with age ratings and if I've seen a film and I'm happy for my DDs to watch it, then I don't stick to the rating

DD1 had a sleepover for her 11th birthday, they watched Twilight (12 rating) after I checked with all the other mums that they were happy for their daughters to watch it

I bought her The Goonies the other day and was really surprised to see it was a 12

dinkybinky · 02/12/2012 21:46

Honestly, why cant parents just let children be children. 11 years old is way to young to be watching a 15 movie.

Selim · 02/12/2012 21:47

I wouldn't show a 15 to other people's 11 yos but I might show some to my own, especially historic 15's which would have been a 12 now, like gremlins etc.

RightsaidFreud · 02/12/2012 21:47

Was it American pie?

wigglesrock · 02/12/2012 21:47

It depends on the film. I snuck into Top Gun when I was 12 (I'm very old Grin), Gremlins is a 15 and I'd let an 11 year old watch it.

kennyp · 02/12/2012 21:48

i wouldnt want my dd or ds watching ted or something like that at that age. nor a 15 certificate rom com.

i used to watch the original texas chainsaw massacre and all sorts of soft porn at my friends house when we were in our early teens. she had older brothers and very lenient parents!! didn't do much harm reprobate alert

Viviennemary · 02/12/2012 21:49

I expect it depends on the film. I don't think that a film rated 15 would have that much objectionable content for an 11 year old to watch. But I don't know. I don't think I'd be too bothered if any 11 year old watched a 15 film.

Viviennemary · 02/12/2012 21:50

An eleven year old.