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to cancel our day trip? advice needed asap!

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Flojo1979 · 02/12/2012 09:25

DD (4) is in the dog house because she ate all of her DBs advent calender while I was in the shower this morning.
Now DS (7) has been told about 20 times to get dressed and keeps messing about, I'm about to lose it big time.
He needs to be at gymnastics soon then straight on to legoland. I already told him if he didn't hurry up we won't be going and he's ignored me and keeps laughing and messing.
He's been on the naughty step.
I haven't got another spare day this yr. Should I cancel the trip?

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AntoinetteCosway · 02/12/2012 09:27

No...they're just excited. Deep breath, quick cup of tea, stern words then start the day again. And have a lovely time!

EricNorthmanIsMyMaker · 02/12/2012 09:28

Have you paid in advance? Then no. If you haven't & can face a day indoors with grumpy kids then yes.

LindyHemming · 02/12/2012 09:30

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CleansLate · 02/12/2012 09:31

I wouldn't cancel it, mostly because kids tend not to learn from things not happening iyswim, and you will have a bloody miserable day with them both mithering.

Tell DD that she has to give her advent calender to her DB, and take your DS out to the car (assume a car, just out otherwise), in his PJs saying you don't have any more time and have to go to gymnastics. Idea of having to do gymnastics in his PJs will get him to (literally) pull his socks up IME!

Whoknowswhocares · 02/12/2012 09:32

Bloomin' heck! Legoland in this temperature? I'd be cancelling for that reason alone! Half the fun of those places for us was always the water based things which will be miserable today - and it's an expensive day out! Unless you've paid up front of course.

But I wouldn't cancel for the reason given. They are just excited

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Flojo1979 · 02/12/2012 09:33

I haven't paid as such have 6 month open vouchers but no other free day now before Xmas.
Really want to go but feel they'll see that as a U turn and victory. But cancelling and being stuck in with them doesn't appeal either!

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Flojo1979 · 02/12/2012 09:34

Not legoland the theme park! Discovery centre, all indoors!

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ENormaSnob · 02/12/2012 09:34

Is he laughing at you for getting cross or just laughing in general?

What was dds punishment for eating all her brothers advent?

Whoknowswhocares · 02/12/2012 09:36

Ha ha. Thank god for that! Was seriously thinking you were nuttersGrin

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Flojo1979 · 02/12/2012 09:38

U see, u's see excited, I see little shits that won't be as they are told!

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Snazzyfeelingfestive · 02/12/2012 09:38

Skip gymnastics and just go straight to Legoland? and yes to giving her calendar to her brother.

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Flojo1979 · 02/12/2012 09:40

DD sat on naughty step (smiling), got yelled at so she stopped smiling (i know, terrible), stern talking to that it was unacceptable, not to do it again, father Xmas is watching etc, and had to take all her chocolate out and put it in DS missing advent pockets.

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Flojo1979 · 02/12/2012 09:41

Gymnastics is paid for and to help DS motor skills (hes quite uncoordinated)

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Flojo1979 · 02/12/2012 09:50

I just lost it big time Sad I can't take anymore. I shouldn't have kids, I'm useless.

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SavoyCabbage · 02/12/2012 09:53

Don't be daft. Grin we all lose it sometimes.

CoraBear · 02/12/2012 09:56

You're not useless. Don't be so hard on yourself.

My Mum once turned the car around when we ten minutes away from the beach - it was an hour drive to get there - because we were being brats. We went straight home and we knew that our behaviour was the reason. We learnt a lesson and took her threats seriously. Don't take them. Sometimes kids just have to learn. I am a cruel mother though!

honeytea · 02/12/2012 09:57

I think the gymnastics in pjs option is a good one.

Don't give up on the day, you can do it, get DS to gymnastics and sit down with a nice cup of tea.

It's still early the day will get better!

Whoknowswhocares · 02/12/2012 10:00

Oh I think a bit a strategic losing it is highly effective and all parents should do it occasionally!
They'll learn. Steal yourself for a crap day at home secure in the knowledge that they won't pull this shit again if they know you will withdraw treats.

Startail · 02/12/2012 10:09

I never cancel anything, SAHMs need to get out.

Also DD2 would just play sims or playmobil all day and not consider it a punishment.

Removing her computer might annoy her, but annoyed DD2s are a far worse punishment for the rest of the household than they are to themselves.

So I'm afraid I yell and bundle them out the house.

Purplelooby · 02/12/2012 12:20

I must be a horrible mother - I would totally have cancelled it. Or at least, pretended that I had and then force them to do something good so that they 'earn' it back again and go on the trip anyway. Or something.

valiumredhead · 02/12/2012 12:24

Just get them out of the houses asap - sounds like you could all do with a change of scenery!

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Flojo1979 · 02/12/2012 17:49

I took him to gymnastics then had a brew and cry somewhere. Then picked them up and said because they'd tried so hard at gymnastics i'd take them.
Had a lovely time at legoland, so glad I got out the house!

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honeytea · 02/12/2012 18:18

glad you had a good day :)

CaliforniaSucksSnowballs · 02/12/2012 18:45

Well done Flojo Grin we all have days like that.

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