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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to not send christmas cards this year?

15 replies

RinkyDinkyDoo · 01/12/2012 08:40

Most of the cards need stamps and to be posted, about 30. The price of stamps,even second class,are ridiculous. Just said to DH about not sending,he agreed and said waste of money.Oh, and I can't be arsed writing them. So AIBU??

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BunnyLebowski · 01/12/2012 08:43

YANBU.

I don't send them either. A complete waste of time and money that people only do out of obligation.

madasa · 01/12/2012 08:43

I have decided the same thing, for the same reasons.

Told DP and he looked at me as if I'd lost the plot. Told me people might not understand and might be offended.

Showed him where the pens were and told him to crack on.

YANBU

LaurieBlueBell · 01/12/2012 11:42

Don't send any. I didn't last year and it was liberating I tell you. I'm hoping eventually all my friends and neighbours decide I'm a miserable Scrooge and stop sending the damn things to me.
They just cause clutter and don't match my Christmas colour scheme
Any I do get this year will go in a bowl to be browsed by anyone who wants to.

Just got to work out how to stop all the DCs friends giving them out at school.

DragonMamma · 01/12/2012 11:54

YANBU

I stopped Christmas cards a long time ago and give £20 to the NSPCC instead, it's a complete waste of money.

I do give a 'special' card to my immediate family - especially my GP's who hate not having them off their GC's for all to see.

PuppyMonkey · 01/12/2012 11:57

I stopped sending them the Christmas of 2006. Agree, I felt liberated - plus hardly anyone has noticed the absence of my card.

We don't live in Victorian times any more. We have other methods of wishing people happy Christmas now.

Scholes34 · 01/12/2012 12:00

You were doing well until you said you "can't be arsed writing them". That probably says more about your attitude than anything. I feel friends and relatives I care about, but don't see often, are worth a little effort on my part.

PuppyMonkey · 01/12/2012 12:05

Nobody ever says on their death bed: "I wish I'd written more christmas cards."

Can't be arsed is a good enough reason for me.

Viperidae · 01/12/2012 12:06

I know times change and we must change with them but, as an old gimmer, our DCs are now older and we are beginning to meet up with old friends again. With some of them, we have only kept in touch via a Christmas card and a standard letter each year.

Maybe Facebook will do that for you younger people but, as someone said above, think about it before discarding friends because you can't be arsed.

PuppyMonkey · 01/12/2012 12:17

Not sending cards doesn't mean you are discarding friends IMHO. Besides, If you only communicate with a friend once a year by means of a Christmas card - they're not much of a friend are they really?

I'm 46 btw, do i still count as a young one?

Jemma1111 · 01/12/2012 12:20

I don't mind writing cards to immediate family but I get fed up with having to spend ages writing loads of cards to so many people who truth be known probably feel the same as I do!.
Lets face it , who enjoys writing them anyway? , most of us do it out of duty and there's always one or two people I forget to write one to and then have to hurriedly send one back when I receive theres.

Jemma1111 · 01/12/2012 12:20

*theirs

myalias · 01/12/2012 12:58

Only sending close family and friends. Sending text greetings instead - bah humbug!!! When you get to my age, late 40's you are done with the writing, licking and posting.

Scholes34 · 02/12/2012 15:40

I really enjoy receiving a Christmas card from an old friend, who has taken a little time to write what they've been up to since we were last in touch. A friend I met at uni, and who I spent time with in London before we got married, had children and moved away once said that because we don't see each other so much any more doesn't mean we care any less about each other and that one day we'll have time again for each other. I don't consider her any less of a friend because I don't see her so often, and a Christmas card is a great opportunity to catch up.

You might not enjoy writing the cards, but think how much joy they bring to the person who receives them.

ByTheWay1 · 02/12/2012 15:45

I love writing cards and always put in a nice long personal message - but only write them for about 20 people - and a bit like Jeremy Clarkson, you only get on the list if someone else gets kicked off it... and ONLY to people I don't see all the time, but are still important to me.

2old2beamum · 02/12/2012 16:27

YANBU Wish I had the courage to do this but your post has given me the umph to do it. Just a few cards to keep special people happy and then donate to the homeless

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