To hope he chokes on his galaxy?

[TerraNotSoFirma]

I have been getting more and more concerned about the amount and regularity of DH's drinking.
I suggested last week that we give up drinking until Christmas, he said fine but not much of a challenge for me as I don't drink much, ok says I, I'll give up chocolate instead.

The fucker has come home from work with a huge bar of galaxy and is sitting eating it in front of me. I hope it gives him dihorrea. The prick.

Has he previously expressed concern about the amount of chocolate you consume? Do you normally eat so much of it that it causes you actual or potential health issues? If not, he's being U for even asking you to give up chocolate.

If this is a jokey thread and I've misread it's tone, can you open a nice cold can of beer, sip it slowly and go 'aaaaah'?

Well what you do is obvious. Nip down to the late shop and buy yourself a gorgeous bottle of something alcoholic.

YANBU btw.

No, he has never voiced concern over my chocolate consumption.
I made the suggestion as a show of solidarity and support. Fool that I am.

There is zero alcohol in the house for the first time in........actually, for the first time.
I would never be so mean, am pretty pissed off about this as I feel he has done this deliberately to upset me or to tempt me into eating chocolate so that he can say, ah well bets off I'm having a drink tomorrow.

What an asshole.

YANBU btw.

I would headfirst, but live in the back arse of nowhere.
I have my dads Xmas bottle of sherry upstairs, is sherry nice?

I hate it but would act like it was so nice that I would win an oscar

No but TBH if you genuinely want him to cut down and he has an issue I wouldnt do it anyway.

Shame him, call him on eating the chocolate, say its unfair but dont play the game as alcoholism? Not funny.

buy one of these and make him use it every time he comes in

they don't make them for chocolate, the guy that invented the chocolate one, disappeared never to be heard of again.

No alcoholism is definitely not funny. :(

Realising your DH is a mean spirited bastard as well as a possible alcoholic is even more :(

I have told him that I feel he has done this to upset me and that I wouldn't be so mean as to drink a bottle of malt in front of him. He maintains he just fancied some chocolate. Unusual as his weekend evening snack of choice is usually crisps and peanuts.

Salty = drink. When I give up alcohol I usually give up the salty snacks too. I have to substitute it with something, so that I have a treat, a kind a wind down. I have tried chocolate but I don't like chocolate.

If you are concerned, get him an alternative. I recommend Schloer because it's the only thing I can use instead of wine.

Some nice non-alcoholic drinks that you can both share would help enormously. He may be making a pathetic point but he may not be, giving up alcohol isn't just hard for alcoholics, most people find it tough. It's the weekend. If you don't drink you usually have something else like a bar of chocolate.

I feel for you Terra hope he realises what a dick he's been.

I think you are most likely right though he's not doing it for fun he's doing it to break the bet, so he can justify the drink. If he's scared to admit he has a problem then he needs justification and will probably be selfish in pursuit of that even if that's not his nature iyswim?

DH smokes, not quite the same I know but pushing him to take that away turns him from a thoughtful loving bloke to a bad tempered monster who lashes out (not physically). Perhaps he needs formal help to deal with it? Though how if he won't admit it I don't know...

My point being is he normally mean or is this out of character driven by a borderline addiction?

Terra this is horrible, I can sense how uncomfortable it is for you from your posts. Seems like some re-evaluation is necessary. Perhaps you should think about how your life could be without him compared with a life with him.

softly I would say he has a mean streak occasionally, when overtired, giving up smoking, not getting enough sex. But it usually manifests itself as general moaning and being a grump. This feels different and I'm certain it was to tempt me into eating the choc so I could be responsible for the bet being broken.

I know how I am when trying to give up smoking,bad tempered and no patience.

Well don't rise and hopefully if he does manage to give up this will disappear from his personality again.

If not then you need to rectify it, problem is now isn't the time to be fighting or hell use that as an excuse to drink instead!

I agree softly. Will bide my time and see what happens.

Still hope he chokes on the galaxy though, he has eaten a third of it and wrapped it back up and put it away. Who does that?

My name is Terra and I am addicted to chocolate. Clearly.