AIBU or is he? Regarding facebook

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Husband doesn't want me to Go on facebook! Why I do not know. He says es always been 'proud' that we never went on it.

I'm going on it behind his back!!!

In a healthy relationship you'd be able to say to him 'It's not up to you what I do online.' and use it or not as you see fit.

What would he do if you said that you are using it?

Your relationship is VERY unhealthy if you feel you need permission from your husband to use Fb. Wrong on so many levels. He CANNOT exert control over you. This is classed as emotional domestic abuse and is one of the many forms of subtle, undermining behaviour used by insecure men. Stand up for yourself or get out of this toxic partnership now!

I really think you two need to talk. This is not really about Facebook.

I really, really need to get more interesting FB friends. I haven't once witnessed a fight, mild PA behaviour, or any of dreadful stuff that I've heard goes on .

He is a lot older than you though, and his generation are not really as into facebook. He is also probably paranoid that you will make friends and not be as reliant on him. :(

This is about way much more than which websites you log on to.

I find it really strange that you haven't told him you're on it....you sound like a rebellious child doing something behind their parents back (that's not meant to sound bitchy,it just how the posts come across to me).

I think you should just tell him,why wouldn't you....partners are allowed to have different interests/opinions you know.

I don't know how people are jumping to the conclusions that this is a case of 'emotional domestic abuse'.....he said he doesn't like FB,she chose to come off it (he didn't make her,I don't see any mention of intimidation????),she then chose to go back on it and keep it secret from him.How does that make him the bad,controlling domestic abuser??

I must be missing something here....surely the conversation should have gone:

Him:I don't like FB,Im glad we're not on it
Her:Really?I like it,Im staying on it.

Am I missing a large part of the picture here??

My husband goes all smug and arsey that he doesnt use social media and sometimes mocks me when I do , I really dont care OP get facebook if you want you are married to him you are not 1 person , doing it behind his back is just silly

I'm going to say I'm going back on it tonight.

I have made some friends via the mumsnet group and look forward to meeting them soon :)