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To pop this letter in the folder for the Teacher??

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TenMinutesLate · 29/11/2012 23:39

DD 5, year 1, has a problem with another girl in the class. They're next to each other in line and it seems the other girl pokes & prods my DD throughout line up & assembly. Annoying but nothing too awful (although I say that, that would actually drive me nuts).

Over the past few weeks I've had little stories about the girl kicking/pinching at playtime if my DD says something she doesn't like or won't play the game my DD is playing. I've taken these with a pinch of salt as i know what playgrounds are like, I've told her to walk away/tell a teacher/yell No very loudly....all the things that I feel like I must say to her (although very tempted to say pinch her back, twice as hard....but I know my DD and she just wouldn't). My DD has friends and otherwise seems confident at school.

This evening she was whispering to her Doll and I overheard her saying she wished that this little girl would stop hurting her :-( heart strings! So we've had a talk about it as the main reason I haven't done anything so far is that they do play together and I know they work together nicely in the classroom. Is this just tittle tattle? I dont think so, it just seems spiteful and sneaky.

I only know the Mum to say Hi to so not sure how to approach this with her, or not at all. I have penned a note (A4 letter!) for her teacher to see if my DD can be
moved in the line so hasn't got someone in her
personal space during that time. Do you think that is acceptable to ask? Or speak to the Mum?

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CoolaSchmoola · 29/11/2012 23:42

I'd speak to the teacher rather than sending a note. YANBU to want this to stop though, poor DD!

Doinmummy · 29/11/2012 23:42

I wouldn't speak to the mum. Let the school deal with it .

ToffeeCaramel · 29/11/2012 23:45

Contact the teacher, but not the mum. It will go wrong if you tell the mum as she will get defensive and try and blame your daughter and probably bitch about you to other mums too! The teacher should be able to keep an eye and will probably sort it out fairly easily.

TenMinutesLate · 29/11/2012 23:46

I was going to capture teacher but it's madness at the door in the morning & afternoon...am hoping the letter will get it out there and then I can book an appointment with her. First child at school....minefield!

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ripsishere · 30/11/2012 00:44

Could you send an abbreviated note and ask her to phone you?

mirry2 · 30/11/2012 00:56

I would phone the school secretary and make an appointment to speak to your dd's teacher. Don't speak to the mum. I did this, the mum investigated, agree her dd had been a little so and so and asked me to promised not to tell the school. The next I knew was that I was hauled up to the school to be told that a parent had anonymously complained about my dd. I always suspected the other mum but didn't say anything as I had promised her. (stupid me)

CocktailQueen · 30/11/2012 08:52

Yes, speak to the teacher, not the mum! Give it a week for teacher to move kids and have a word about 'kind hands and friendly feet', then if no improvement after a week, make an appt to see teacher and discuss. hth!

TenMinutesLate · 30/11/2012 09:55

I didn't check these replies this morning but thank you. I have put the letter in her folder although her normal Teacher isn't there today so I'm sure I'll be able to follow this up on Monday.

DD seemed happier with going in knowing that her Teacher will be able to (hopefully!) do something. Mirry, your story is what I thought could happen but wasn't sure if I was just being a wimp going to the Teacher!

Haven't heard about kind hands/friendly feet but I'll look into this today and get some more tips!

I'll let you know how we get on next week, thank you!

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LindyHemming · 30/11/2012 09:58

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