One pretends I don't exist. Apart of the customary birthday calls is as if I didn't exist. I did much of the effort of keeping the contact, made a fuss with her children, drove for hours to visit her but as soon as I stopped the relationship died (and I stoped after she failed to call me or ask how DS was after I split from my husband, as I resented that I have been there for her and her children in the good times and the bad ones and she couldn't even ask how her my son was doing).
My other sister has always been some sort of a queen bee, who acts lke jekill or hide depending on where does she thing you are: If you are doing bad she treats you condescendingly and is very patronising, if she thinks you are doing better than her she needs to put you down, and turns into an aggresive histerical bully if you disagree with her.
The thing is that my niece has got into the all "0ne Direction" fad, had gone all British and she has recently called me to say she eould like to spend some time in the UK with me to study English ( she has always gone to bilingual schools. Her English is better than mine).
I really don't fancy the idea of having her around. I am on my own with DS and barely making it to the end of the month. I really cannot add a 14 year old to the household. Not to say that neither her or her mum had bothered to keep in touch over the last 6 years.
My other sister, who is totally out of the radar as well, thinks I am totally unteasonable and selfish.
I'm feeling like I don't give a hoot about either of them and want to tell them to stuff it.
Am I unreasonable?