to Havre said no?

[MistletoeAndTomHardyPlease]

My parents are very hard up at the moment.

I have 3 siblings . 2 of them live with my parents still.

At Christmas my sister is going to my parents. for the whole of Xmas not just the day .

mtg siblings have decided that they will all put money together and present it to my parents to pat for the Xmas shop.

very nice as it will take the pressure off for them greatly.

my sister emailed me and asked me to contribute.

I say no because I will not be there. they all will. and I have my own Xmas shop to pay for.

aibu to say no?

I feel bad as everyone else is but they are all sharing Xmas there together
and won't be doing another shop whereas I have my whole shop to pay for.

???

sorry am on my phone. lots of typos!!

Not unreasonable, I can understand them asking if you normally buy your parents/siblings a present - to do this instead.

we already agreed no presents for adults this year as no one has the money spare to do it.

If it was as a christmas present then fine but as it is meant to be for the christmas food for a day that they are all spending together without you then no. Rather cheeky really but perhaps you should clarify what exactly it is your sister wants from you. We were asked to contribute last year to a laptop and told we had to give £100 - we said no and it did not go down too well at all but we have a lot more outgoings and responsibilities than any of the others in the family so felt justified (we can pick our own gifts thank you).

No really relevant if you're there or not IMO.

You either can afford to help them out at Christmas or you can't. So if you can't you can't, don't feel bad.

I saw it as them all sharing and splitting the cost of Xmas as they are all together.

but we're not. so have to keep the cash for our own shopping.

if I were going of course would as I wouldn't be doing my own shop then.

she wanted £50.

I've already helped parents our by loaning them money to buy the kids presents until they have it spare.

Tamburlaine! Cheeky beggers

Not at all unreasonable then, in fact if agreed no presents then they are bu to ask really.

Umm wtf? YANBU
not Tamburlaine

tamburlaine? ?? huh?

Autocorrect!

haha oh!! I had no idea what was happening then!

Maybe you could write off the money loaned instead! Seems odd to me when they are struggling to still expect presents for your DC.

I don't expect anything.

I've told my mum a million times to leave it this year but she won't. She could never not buy them Xmas presents its just how she is!

I couldn't not get the money back tbh. .
were hardly rolling in it ourselves. we are up shit creek ourselves bar a few hundred quid we have incase of emergency!