to wonder if anyone else didn't trawl through baby name books

[stayingin1]

We are in the process of choosing a name for our impending arrival and it has become very clear that DH and I have a very different approach to the whole thing. I have a name each for a boy or a girl that I like and that will go well with our surname so I think we should go with them.

DH also likes the names but says we can't just give our DC the first name that pops into our head, we need to trawl through baby name books from cover to cover to make sure we haven't missed anything else we might like.

Am I being unreasonable to be happy with the names I like? Does everyone really go through page after page of names in order to find that magical one?

Its not that I don't care what they will be called, I do, I just feel if I'm happy with the names I like, that's all we need to do. Our child will define their name, not the other way around - but am I being too relaxed about the whole thing? Did anyone else have a similar approach?

If he wants to trawl, he'll trawl. If he comes up with other possibilities, I hope you'll give him a fair hearing.

We didn't trawl.
I knew what names I wanted and have done since I was about 15 - the girl's name was especially important (it's not a family name or anything, just a name I have always always loved). DH knew better than to try and intervene and change it. Luckily, he liked it anyway!
I do periodically flick through the books (pregnant with DC2 now) to see if anything better turns up but it hasn't yet. And DH basically leaves suggestions to me, and just vetoes the ones he dislikes.

I'd say let your DH get on with trawling if he wants to - won't do any harm. And he may be right and turn up something you both love more. And if not then you can be smug and superior and call the baby what you were going to anyway!

I had a name in my mind for DS from day 1 (just knew he was a boy). Called the bump it and everything but for some reason when scan confirmed he was a boy I changed my mind and insisted on trawling through books and websites. I must have changed his name at least 5 times! And in the end when he was born named him the first ever name.

I think usually if you have a set name you will be set on it. Its always best to wait until they are born to decide anyway to check they suit the name. We had no name in mind at all for DD1, literally decided on it the day after she was born. DD2 we thought was a boy so had a set boys name and no girl name, decided on that a few hours after she was born!

Sometimes the name just doesn't 'fit'. Nothing wrong with having a look for back ups just in case!

I didn't trawl through books, just thought of names myself but went with a familybmembers suggestion on the birth of ds. With dd, Dp had a name he liked, I liked it too, made a few suggestions but went with Dps choice in the end.