...to think that my OH should not have spent £260 on Ugg boots for the DCs?

[Apocalypto]

We have just moved house, Xmas is coming, and every penny matters.

Without discussing it with me first, OH told me a few weeks ago that the DCs (9 and 6) had just been bought a pair of Uggs each as "they need winter boots". And that these had cost £200.

I was aghast and said so. I am selling stuff on eBay for a fiver here and a tenner there to make ends meet, and meanwhile £200 gets blown without a by your leave. I don't spend £100 on shoes or boots for myself.

These Ugg boots have not made the DCs happy. The very next day one got butter stains on and was in floods of tears, until they came out with cornflour. OH then announces that as we clearly need the Ugg care kit as well, I've also now paid for that. This has also been bought. Separately.

I then see the credit card bill and these boots were not £200 but £260, and that is not including the care kit.

WWYD?

Hardly unfair fran on a site where 99.9% of posters are female .

Anyway, irrespective of gender, the OP's OHis a feckless twit.

It doesn't particularly make a difference, it was wrong if the OH regardless of sex.

I only asked since the majority of pp said 'he was wrong' therefore the assumption is that the OH is male.

Does your OH know that you are short of money? If not then they cannot be blamed for buying the UGGS and presuming all is ok esp if this kind of spending has previously been the norm and they have brushed it off as you being tight?.

If they are fully aware that you are economising then you need to have a chat to reinforce the notion that they cannot continue spending in this manner and that iPod's are out of the question for Christmas etc.

The only thing I'd be annoyed about is that he paid full price! I've bought my kids genuine Uggs from Amazon/Javari for £15-£20 by scouring money saving websites and buying out of season.

Other than that, he's tried to do a nice thing for the kids which I would appreciate.

YANBU
DD1 is on her second or third winter in some very nice £40 jones boots.

DD2 wore £11 M&S ones for two years and now has some £8 ones from Primark.

They are not waterproof, but they are warm and comffy. If it pours she has sensible school shoes.

Yanbu. They'll get them soaked and grow out of them.

I have decent sheepskin boots as I won't grow out of them, lose them or jump in a puddle. The DC's have sainsburys snow boots for winter, not £200 worth of Uggs!!

YANBU

But...is your OH just a bit dim in the sense of thinking 'ugg boots are what people have' regardless of really thinking through the cost in the first place and the cost for growing feet. Perhaps some people forget this ubiquitous footwear is a luxury, perhaps OH just thinks 'DCs need shoes, this is the going rate' hence not discussing it. But then is OH prone to spending like this? Is OH one for spending money the family don't have or projects their own preference for brands on the children?

i mean unfair cos it could be 2 women in a relationship...thats all

How do you manage your finances generally? DH and I would discuss buying something of that price before hand, generally we have similar ideas and we don't disagree. I think that £260 on boots is far too much for children, but it is the parents choice. However, when you are scraping buy and having to sell on ebay to afford other things for Christmas it is far far too much and you should have been consulted before they were purchased.

If he/she didn't tell you the full price at the time, they knew they had gone over the top. It doesn't hurt to no.

I would address the ipod issue now, ask your OH if they are going to be buying them, and veto it. Do they know what your financial situation is?

Wow, I would also be upset in your shoes. Another £9 and your dh could have bought an iPad mini for the kids for Christmas.