*Not actually ditch but not be so close to....
I have what I thought was a very close friend, we've known each other for 8 years, ran a business together a few years ago, I'm godmother to her dd, been on family holidays together, I stuck by her through an affair she had that she's still not told her DH about (really not as judgey as that sounds, just a lot of her friends were horrible to her about it and I did anything I could to help her through that). Since having her dd though she's become very distant and I'm finding it really hurtful. I completely understand that having kids changes things, you don't have as much time etc etc but I've got two dc of my own, it's not a case of 'oh the non-mum doesn't understand' and it seems to be only me she doesn't have time for.
We used to do a lot together (not like joined at the hip but now and then meet for lunch, see a film, take dc's to the park etc), phone/text each other, invite each other to significant events etc - as you'd expect friends to do. Then gradually it's wound down to purely FB messages and not even those all that frequently - if I phone or text she mostly doesn't even bother getting back to me until the next time she sees me or FB messages me, when she remembers I left a message. And her dd's christening was the last family event I was invited to, a year and a half ago. She's missed two of my birthdays, cancelling at the last minute for fairly minor reasons then promising to 'do something later' which never materialised while I've always made an effort for hers - but for the last one she told me she 'didn't have time to go out for dinner' and I only found out later she'd actually gone out with other friends and all I got was a quick bite on her lunch break so I could give her her present.
She always seems to have plenty of time for new friends though - going out for birthdays of people she met a month or two before, inviting whole baby groups to her dd's birthday, leaving her dd with people she's known less than 6 months when I keep offering to babysit whenever she needs (she's never once taken me up on it). It's hard to explain sensibly without sounding whiny but there's so many examples where it looks as though she's desperately chasing new friends (some of whom haven't seemed the least bit interested in maintaining the friendship) while completely blanking me half the time. The latest was that I'd organised a pub quiz night for charity and she'd volunteered to help on the night then cancelled the day before just to take her dd and dh to a star watch thing in a local town, leaving me with monster stress trying to find a last minute volunteer which I'm still fuming about.
I know I probably sound really spoilt but it's very hurtful - I know logically I probably need to either talk to her about it or distance myself but I feel very awkward talking to her now we seem so distant, but I don't want to give up on the friendship either. I need to let it go though don't I?