DD1 is staying with grandparents this weekend. For a long long time, pretty much every time they come up to visit, I feel under lots of pressure to have the house to their standard. So for example, if there's any crumbs on the surfaces in the kitchen then a comment is usually made. I spend literally the whole morning of the day they come to make the place as perfectly presentable as I can and then try and keep it that way. It's not the easiest of tasks with 2 DD's, the youngest of which is a whirlwind. The house is not a mess, but I'm always made to feel as though it is.
Our banister is a white one, it shows up the smallest of marks. When my dad came a few weeks ago to pick up DD1 to stay over for a night he must have whinged to my mum about the banister, as she said about cleaning it. I went and looked along the banister after I got off the phone and there was a tiny smudge mark on it. I wipe it down when I get a chance, it was not filthy as was mentioned, just one smudge on it.
We have a single bed to put up for DD1, but are waiting on the mattress to be delivered before we put it up. I spoke to my mum earlier and my dad says in the background 'I'll put up that bed on Sunday when I bring DD1 back' 
For one, I don't want an empty frame up taking up room when we are hard pushed for room as it is. Secondly, we are more than capable to put up the bed ourselves. He is like this with literally everything, he cannot leave alone no matter how many times told. I get that he's trying to help, I understand that but it shouldn't take me having to tell him lots and lots of times for him to listen to me.
I'm dreading this weekend, as he always goes 'I'll just nip to the toilet' every time he is here and he is very blatantly checking upstairs. For what, I have no idea, but at the moment the only room that has a door on upstairs is the toilet so it's not like we can close all the doors to every room. We found mould in our bedroom yesterday on the wall so we have moved our bed into DD1's room while we treat it. DD1 doesn't mind, in fact she's quite enjoying having us in her room. I just know that when my dad sees our bed in her room I'll get lots of questions and 'you need to do this etc etc etc'. The plan is to treat the area, repaint it and then move both DD's into that room as it's the biggest bedroom. We'll move to DD1's current room and DD2's room will eventually become the room for DC3 when we have money to redecorate. We don't have much storage room so to speak, so we currently have storage boxes in our bedroom. This is also seen as a problem for them.
I'm not in the mood for an argument with them, my dad is the main problem really. He doesn't listen, he makes me feel like a child. It doesn't matter what I say to him. I know something will be said this weekend. AIBU to have had enough of all of this? Or should I just put up with it all?