Bedroom door

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My 12 yo DD slams her bedroom door when in a mood all the time
So i have just taken it off

Aibu? She was warned

Actually, I think it's best to give teens totally harmless and petty stuff to rail against. Otherwise they'll look for other ways to rebel.

And it isn't unreasonable to expect them to treat the house/the things and people within it with respect. Slamming doors is not something to be proud of.

ha ha mrskeithrichards my best mate was gutted this morning that she hadn't thought of it for her DS

the less teens have to rebel against the better imo

I agree with Arbitary. Give them some minor things to rebel against.

i agree too, she's not even a teen yet though

Sorry OP I didn't realise she has actually broken the door - she would be paying for the replacement if she were mine. YANBU

I think it's really harsh, tbh. At 12 I had boobs and had started my periods. I needed some privacy.

The sign is brilliant, btw.

She will privact with a curtain, and when she learns to repect the house she can have her door back.

god spelling today, sorry!

valium i paid last time but she did lose some pocket money, its not broken this time YET..

I would make ds pay for the whole thing tbh.

I should have, but you live and learn!

LaQueen you sound like my kind of person!

I shall have to adopt an annoying tune

I like it LaQueen !

My brother was a door-slammer. Until is fell off its hinges before he even hit his teens. The door never properly closed after that

When he was a lot younger he used to stomp up to his room and take his pictures down to show my mum how angry he was . My mum still teases him about it 25 years later.

I never went through the angry stomping phase. I never felt that angry really.

My parents used to threaten that when I was 12/13. After Step dad actually started removing the door after I'd slammed it,I quickly realised they were being serious and stopped.

YANBU. Door slamming is very annoying.

laQueen I think we need more mum and Aunt examples, we have to learn somewhere...

I think a child of 12 (may well be puberty age, I was at 12) needs the privacy.

And I can't help but think door slamming is passive aggressive. Rather she slam a door than punch someone.

Sometimes you need to let anger out physically.

That's not what my understanding of PA is. She IS letting her anger out not hiding it behind a supposedly nice comment.

I have 2 teenage DDs and I wouldn't do that.

I'd warn her and stop pocket money or tell her she isn't doing x, y or z. But I wouldn't take her door off.

I think the 90 mins in the bathroom this morning is just the start! She'll have been thinking of other things all day which will annoy you.
I've always found it best to give punishments which affect them more than me.

Letting anger out isn't a bad thing though :S

It's actually really healthy.

Get her a punch bag?

we did this to dd1& dd2! not sure how old they were but it was before dd3 moved into that room, so they can't have been more than 9 and 7

if you can't play with / use it nicely, it gets taken away :)

we gave them their door back for Christmas! cue lots of faces when people asked them what their best Christmas present was and they both said 'our bedroom door!'

I'm not sure that venting anger by hitting things and slamming doors is something we ever want to encourage in our kids. It isn't healthy. Going for a run to get rid of the tension (or whatever) is fine. But I don't think we should teach our kids to take their anger out on anything (or anyone).

And, yeah, slamming doors is straightforward aggressive aggressive. Passive aggressive is another thing entirely.