I am sick of comments about my weight....

[MamaBear17]

Long story short, pre-baby I was a size 10-12. I gained two stone during pregnancy and then after I delivered I lost the weight quickly due to the stress of dd having colic. Now that she is a toddler and I am back at work I never stop so I have naturally lost weight. I am a size 8-10, so hardly skinny, and I have lost my boobs and still have a wobbly belly.
A small group of women at work constantly comment on my weight. One woman in particular who is a bit obsessed with her own weight anyway. Today I was talking to said woman about an important issue and she started going on about how I have lost weight since last week and she is going to feed me pies! I am starting to feel a little self concious. The stupid thing is, pre-baby I always struggled with my weight, but now I finally do not care it, other people keep commenting. It is actually making me feel quite bad about myself and I find that I do not know what to say to people when they comment.

Please, can some one give me some witty, one liners that I can say in a 'tongue in cheek' way that might shut people up?

Tell 'em it's a side effect of the chemo. Cheeky beggars.

:( I got this off the midwife who helpfully asked "do you eat" humiliatingly in front of a student and dp. She didn't believe my bmi was 19.5 (I'm a nurse so know) made me weigh myself again then declared "oh yes you are ok, but you have clothes on and have eaten breakfast" I have dreadful sickness so had eaten nothing.

Rude people. Pointless as well, why make stupid comments without even giving advice.

sorry op. just get furious about this subject. yanbu.
Tell them if they want diet advice go to weightwatchers, or yawn dramatically.

YADNBU no ones weight is up for discussion unless the person themselves is discussing it.

People think its ok to comment on other peoples weight if they're slim, but its never ok.

The woman is probably envious if she talks openly about insecurities over her own weight.

You probably just have to be firm "My weight is no longer up for discussion."

If she's going to feed you pies you could suggest that she better stick to lettuce. It might shut her up.

Too rude.

Not sure where the myth that people do not comment if you are overweight comes from.

In my experience, people feel very free to comment.

Did you mean to be so rude?

Is the MN standard reply to, well, rudeness!

As a naturally skinny person, 5''6', 7st10 (my heaviest ever) & size 6-8, I've always had to live with comments about my weight. It's only really bothered me in the last two years (28) and it does depress me.

I had my daughter in June and I weighed exactly the same straight after she was born. I was really hoping I'd gain a bit of weight as it was my third baby! Midwife referred my to a dietician, even though I argued I was naturally skinny. Dietician was a right bitch telling me how starving myself would effect the baby and not to be scared of putting weight on whilst pregnant. Cue tears and cue my DP coming to my next appointment and putting the dietician straight.

I actually hate my body I would rather be fat to able to lose weight as it is much harder to actually out it on. I have big dinners almost as big as my DP. I also eat lots of crap, biscuits, cake etc

The comments from passing strangers annoy me the most. I've actually snapped at a few usually saying "don't f*cking look at me then!"
My mum also once said "I feel sorry for your DP, he's got nothing to grab on to" cheeky mare...

I guess the fact is most people would love to be slim, me, I hate it.

MammaTJ was that aimed at me? I never said people didnt comment on those who are overweight

I know this one OP. I have been 'underweight' all my life. My parents used to get letters home from the school and would reply with Fate eats like a horse, she doesn't have an eating disorder. I am now 28 and have had four kids. Still a size 6-8. It's just the way I am. Because I have had the four kids, people seem to think I should be a lot heavier and often make comments about that or say don't you eat I just say I must have a high metabolism and change the subject.

My nickname in school was skeletor funny now, wasn't so funny at the time!

Pre DC's, I was really thin. One friend always said "you're so thin" in a really disparaging tone. I could never think of an appropriate response which wouldn't hurt her - she's easily upset.

As a result I never comment unless I know that someone is actively trying to change their weight.

I just wanted to empathise OP.

Owl we have similar stats, I am five foot five and 7 and a half stone. I also eat a lot of crap. I just get spots with my girls I put on very little in pregnancy with my sons I went up to ten stone. Everyone said how much healthier I looked then I lost it all again (not through trying) and I am back to looking 'too skinny'

I tell people who feel compelled to comment on my weight (normal bmi 9st4 and 5'9) that I walk the dog twice a day.

Actually, I've always been on the slim side pre dog, but it does leave them wondering about the dog diet, and what they could do about their own weight issues, and less about what I do or don't eat. Also I'm not exercising to lose weight, the dog needs walking.

It's less rude than saying I don't enjoy overeating and I keep active, which might cause offence.

If you don't have a dog you could invent one?

I grew up very thin. The comments from strangers on the street were the worst and will stay with me forever. I realize as an adult that the only people who comment on weight are the ones who are thinking of their own. Just try to ignore and smile. A bunch of women somewhere I worked we're always on diets and used to comment on my body until one day I said, without thinking about it, "I just can't put weight on really, and when I do it goes straight on my boobs". Funnily enough they shut up after that.

It's jealousy. I lost a lot of wieght last year and the number of people who told me I shouldn't loose anymore. It's threatening. Actually my new years resolution is to get from my current size 12 to a size 10! Bollocks to them.

No Trustme, why would you think that, as you hadn't said it?

It's often jealousy, IME.

However, as we don't know you/your situation/your work colleagues, is it also possible that they might just be worried about you?

Is it my turn to comment on your body now?

I have had several horrible things said to me about my weight ( i'm a size 16, but have been a yo-yoer going anywhere from a 10 to a 20 over the years ..)

The latest was from a friend saying she thought i was nice looking but too fat, my mum who is very thin is often accused of being anorexic and we both get hurt by these comments ....

It's maddening, isn't it? I think this is a feminist issue tbh; female bodies are up for public scrutiny in a way that male bodies aren't. When I was watching the Jubilee celebrations with my ILs all they kept on about was Kate's weight. I also blame those magazines with 'Kerry's lost / gained weight' as their front page headlines, with ill-advised photos of slebs in bikinis.

FWIW I'm a size 14 and a too high BMI; I really need to lose weight. But that's my problem, and I wouldn't dream of projecting it on to anyone else.

I have this constantly too

I'm a size 8, always have been. I have a healthy appetite and we have a fairly healthy diet but I just never put on weight.

I get a constant barrage of 'are you anorexic', 'do you ever eat?' if we go out for dinner with friends someone will pass comment on what I'm eating. And as for the 'real woman' 'men love curves' shit everywhere

I've never figured out a proper retort, I just ignore it and fume quietly

I used to be very very thin (ha, those were the days) and you're right, people do feel free to comment on it. I really think it's jealousy - we have such an obsession with being thin in society that if someone actually is thin, anyone who is a bit overweight feels they have to be disparaging about it, usually in the guise of being concerned about you undereating.

I think the next time she comments on your weight loss, you should say, "Would you like to know my secret?"

I have had this too - and it also drives me mad - I have been told that 'I'm dragging you to the doctors to get you sorted out - you're too thin' - but if I'd said 'and I'm taking you because you are too fat' they'd have hated me - but its ok because I'm thinner.
I'm 43, size 8 and weigh 8st. Get over it. I have a gluten intollerance which doesn't help as all the yummy stuff has shed loads of wheat in it and the gluten free tastes revolting - so I don't bother.
..........and why are mothers and sisters the worst at the comments?

People are jealous.

I don't like to comment on people's weight.

It's rude to comment on weight negatively.

My sister is thin & i'm a bit envious but i tell her the truth - she looks amazing.

Just say ''do you mind not discussing my weight'' unless it's a compliment of course!

So, YANBU.