Please I beg you, Help me get over him :(

[SmallBump48]

My Fiancé just ended our 3 year relationship.

I have a DS with him.

Please I'm heartbroken, I don't know what I am going to do now, I'm so devastated.

Please say ill be okay because I don't feel like I will be, please tell me everything is going to be okay

I can't stop crying, He has just left and said that he doesn't love me anymore then just moved out.

I don't want to be without him

What am I going to do?!

Have posted in relationships aswell but much more traffic here and I really need support :'(

I went through this less than a year ago. Couldn't eat, sleep, think. Functioned only for my ds. Wake up, breathe, take an hour at a time.

I know it hurts like hell, but you cannot change that, and that hurt me the most. I had to be grateful, every day, for the things that were good in my life, even when I felt like laying down and giving up. Maybe time doesn't heal, but you find a way to live around the pain. One day it won't be the first thing you think about when you wake and the last thing you think of before (during) whilst you sleep. Grieve, grow, get stronger. There is no other choice. Even though you feel right now you cannot, you really, really can.

Take all help offered, don't be proud, keep only people that want the best for you in your life.

Hth,be strong, because, whether you know it or not yet, you are. X

You will be okay, I promise. It will take time, more than you think possible on this side, but once you get through this it won't seem as long, as if by magic.

Change something, redecorate, change the bed linen, Change your hair. I know you don't want him to be gone, but he is and you need to not be looking at things that remind of him day in day out.

Do you have anyone in RL you can talk to? Get out and do things, create some new memories. I do know it's tough, there was a time I thought I would never be able to face the friends and family ever for fear of them asking about the bloke who left me. That was a long time ago and I got over him.

Take care of yourself and it take one day at a time.

Ah smallbump A lot of us know that crushing pain, we really do, and wouldn't tell you it gets better if it didn't, it really does.

Did you have no idea that he was unhappy? it seems a very extreme thing to do out of the clear blue sky, but anyway, it was never going to work, and it wouldn't if he came back, because he doesn't want it to. Now I know that hurts like hell,but you must accept it's over.

Mourn, and cry, and lean on your friends, they won't mind you blubbing every time you talk about it,
When you say you don't want your life without him, I worry, how old is your little boy? He needs you, you are all he's got right now.

aww OP

i echo the advice from the others. keep posting, we are all here for you, and most of us have been through similar, and come out the other side

How old is your ds? Is there anyone who can help you out with him. Are you managing to hold it together in front of him?
Concentrate on him. He deserves your emotions. Your x does not. Do you think he is sitting around sobbing? Maybe he could look after ds whilst you sort out the practical things you need to do?
Hope you start to find it easier every day soon...and you will.

I have only had 4 hours sleep since it happened :(.

I found out that I am pregnant today! I want him back desperately :(.

I am just getting worse, It doesn't seem to get better at all.

You aren't really going to let a man reduce you to a quivering heap, are you? For god's sake, get a grip. You are a person who has had the strength to produce another human being. You are stronger than this. You are a warrior. Show him what he is missing. You don't want him. You want someone kinder, better looking, richer. Dry those pathetic tears and show the world what you are made of but cry in the shower by all means.

SmallBump you will keep getting up each morning and you will keep putting one foot in front of the other. Eventually it will get a bit easier. Even when it gets easier there will be black days.

My peak of awfulness was my birthday about 3 months after he had left. You are not the only one. Come over to the lone parents section and post your heart away to get lots of lovely support.

It's terrible and you think the pain is never going to end but eventually it does. This takes time.
I decided in that what I needed was my friends and that they wouldn't be bothered with me if I cried all the time. I decided to cry at home in private and in the outside world to plaster a smile on even though it was the last thing I wanted to do. In the end I prefered the me with a smile to the me crying alone and I became the person with the smile.
OP you will, in time, be that person too.

remember also that the Samaritans are there if you need to talk

It won't get better in just a few days. If you're definitely pregnant, you'll have to calm down and tell him. I doubt it'll make him come back, but it might make some kind of difference. You must try to get some sleep, or you'll make yourself ill, and crazy. Cheekybaubles is right, you have to focus on DS. He needs you, and you need something to keep you occupied. The end of a relationship is a bereavement. You are not being unreasonable to howl and feel terrible, but your life is not over. Being dumped is also humiliating. You haven't done anything to deserve this. It happens to the most beautiful, charming, accomplished women when the shallow men they're with get bored. I know it's a massive generalisation, but it seems to me that while women like it when a relationship matures and settles down, men want the thrill of the beginning of a relationship. They also feel jealous of their single mates, whereas women feel sorry for a terminally single friend.

SmallBump, keep posting. We've all been there. It really is true that it makes you stronger.