I am trying work out if I'm on the verge of throwing an arty farty anally retentive, migraine induced hissy fit
& probably pull out, or if I've really just been pushed too far & NBU at all - genuinely 
I volunteer for Charity, have done for the last 5 years or more - they have an up coming Fete, where I usually Face Paint - I also do Face Painting & tattoos professionally, no big business, but an aside to my usual work, something that I really enjoy, fetes, parties etc - but this Charity Fete is my using their own very basic kit, & my time & skill are free. Prices charged at this fete are really low as its more for DCs fun than as a fund raiser, but does raise a little IYSWIM.
Recently adding the Tattoos to the fete for older DCs was discussed & agreed - I offered to sort them out with a kit from my wholesale supplier, based on my experience & speaking with other professionals, so buying only designs that we know to sell well & saving them aprox £70 in the process.
I also make a fresh stew for them for sale in the cafe - which has been very popular - so this year I expected to be making more of it as it sold out early last year.
I should add that I gladly offer all of the above, but this time round we have new people running the show & I getting more & more frustrated, to the point where I feel like saying - sod it & pulling out of it all - BUT I am dealing with chronic migraine, so I am well aware I might just be me being tetchy.
I also sympathise that its a new thing for them & no doubt stressful too, so I am trying to be understanding, but finding it a bit difficult as I do feel messed around
The following has so far wound me up?
First contact over my sorting out the Tattoo - I was asked to email the main person all my business contact details
- I politely refused & then ensued the ping pong over what I could buy - I wasted so much time trying to politely explain - again & again what was needed - this was AFTER it was agreed it would all be left to me - they don't want to use the more durable better quality stencils I use, so I then have the job of trying to find a supplier with the best prices that has everything we need for this & a face paint kit top up.
Face paint kit is missing - I've been asking for it since October - I cant order anything until I have it - I finally get it back less than a week before the Fete - its very obviously been used recently & a LOT of stuff is missing -
So I go through it, list what is the least amount of stuff needed to make it serviceable again & then try & get the go ahead
HP is still hopping & changing on the tattoos, very little money allowed to be spent on this - totally missing the point that my getting WHOLESALE prices is based on my buying multiples of the tattoos, which is a new venture for them, so of course will need a cash outlay - & if I order from one place, I can then get a few half price face paints too - so basically a big headache, lot of my time & effort wasted & no real time left to order & still having to deal with what by now are now annoying emails chopping & changing - so I politely retract the tattoo offer, saying no time, & perhaps its best looked at again for the next fete.
No brushes or proper sponges for the face paints, colours missing too, so I offer to use my own kit, which is a full professional kit, but that I expect a nominal amount toward my paint usage, which will mean them charging slightly more - still less than a 1/3 of my usual charge & 20p per face for me, so Im hardly pulling a fast one - this is turned down - because x & y are going to donate their kiddies toy FP kit & it has brushes etc 
- I've lost count of the number times I've said these kits are rubbish & will slow things down & maybe I'm being over sensitive but it felt like a guilt trip
HP was also concerned that we needed LOADS of volunteer painter help on the day - I've tried to explain time & again, that with only a small kit, that too many volunteers wont help, but will hinder as people waiting around for colours etc & also health & safety needs to be taken into account ( my anally retentive side was horrified last fete at what some volunteers did, let alone the 3 DCs I know of wo were in tears over their poor face painting :(
- basically HP keeps on saying "oh, you are the expert" & then completely ignoring any advise I give - from a conversation earlier, it now looks like we have 4/5 painter sharing 8 tubs of paint, no brushes at all, unless you provide your own & few inferior rough sponges - I had to laugh when I said I would get them some professional (much quicker to use) sponges & was then presented with bath sponges, complete with foot scrub - but laughing aside it is driving me nuts
I've also now just been asked to make half the stew amount I did last year - its not worth my getting up early to make a fresh pan for the day & will not cost them half the amount - it makes no sense at all
They genuinely seem like nice people & I am sure they have a lot on their plate, but dealing with them this few weeks - I am slowly loosing the will to live
AIBU - or oversensitive & easily stressed because of ongoing migraine - i really cant make my mind up - but part of me wants to tell them - politely - to stick it all - but I want to do it for the actually charity & I enjoy it - though I can see it probably being a nightmare on the day, with too many people fighting over paints :(