To think that DH could at least thank me?

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For what?
For every year making a list and looking for, buying and wrapping Christmas presents for the whole family (except myself). That includes stockings for three children. The only pressies for my side of the family are for DM, the rest are for MIL and his three siblings and families. Don't get me wrong, I love his family, they are all lovely and I don't mind doing the bloody shopping, but please, is it too much to ask for a tiny bit of acknowledgement and thanks that I have done the job for us both and taken the pressure off him? Aaarrrggghhh!!!!!

P.s. I even have to send him the exact links for presents for me otherwise he would come up with nothing.

LTB.
Nah, they're all the same. Think I'd faint if mine ever said thanks.
You are lucky though, I gave a picture, clear description, web link etc to a pair of boots 2 years ago. Got Peter Kay tickets

YANBU at all.

Have you thought of telling him to get presents for his siblings and their families?

"I even have to send him the exact links for presents for me otherwise he would come up with nothing."

That's awful. Does he not know you or is it just laziness?

YABU - it's often said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result

Take the martyr hat off OP then and make him do a bit.

I do all the Christmas shopping (including presents for me) wrap them up and make sure they are delivered. In 27 years no thanks from DH. HOWEVER her writes all the Christmas cards which i HATE doing. Works for us!

I do all the organising for Christmas in our house. I don't expect a Thank You from Dh specifically as it's just one of the things I do. I don't thank him for putting the bins out, or sorting out the cars or any of the things he does.
I know he appreciates everything that I do, just as I appreciate what he does.

If it bugs you, then it's time to change and get him to do it. If you are happy to do it then I don't see the problem.

That reads a bit harsh, it isn't meant that way :)

Well, I had to take DM for her checkup today, which meant travelling to a city ( we live in the middle of feckin nowhere) so I then had a shitty non-productive afternoon looking for suitable gifts at a shopping centre.
TBH Sunny / Euphemia no-one would get anything much if I wasn't there. DH doesn't really believe in spending money so I have to spend it for him
That would not be the end of the world for the extended family, but would be awful for the children. It's not that I really mind and I know it is not his forte, but I just thought he could say 'thanks love, I know you have spent loads of time trying to get nice things for everyone'.
Thing is, we are not so badly off, but it does take a lot of thought and research to do this. I can't just buy random stuff at any price as don't have the money and he would be furious if I refuse to go into debt for it.

Cortana I have to send the links or I would get random stuff! It is not laziness, he is just useless at choosing stuff. Last year he bought a lovely pair of earrings, nice shape, lovely silver and gemstones, but in a colour that I can't wear. A real shame as they were lovely, but do not go with anything I have. he sees me everyday and must surely know which colours I wear?
It is always meant well though and he is lovely.

No one knows your relationship better than you. If it's endearing and you feel it's well meant and lovely you need to let go of any resentment, accept it as one of his faults. (We all have faults and love is being with someone despite them). If you can't, you need to be honest with him about how it makes you feel and what you would like to change about the situation.

Mine has the annoying habit of saying 'what have WE bought SIL/my mum/any other damn person'
I'm so bloody tempted to innocently say ' I don't know dear, I bought them last year and assumed it was your turn and all under control'

Are you the ASDA Mum?

Why do you do it? DH buys for his family, I buy for mine. He's an adult

I like sending dh links to stuff is like - its not because he doesn't know jwhat I'd like, it's because particular and I hate wasting money.

If he doesn't believe in it - why do you expect thanks? You don't thank people for doing things you don't want done?

So you Maybe BU because you're expecting thanks. However if he does really think they need doing - then YANBU to expect some thanks, not sure you can really expect him to know what colours of earrings go with what unless he has some skill in it btw. It's not a talent everyone has, indeed it's not an absoute in any case - maybe he genuinely thought they'd go - and even do to him.